New Landy new life

So how are all the Lad's doing that are going/gone through divorce in the last while ? Hope you are on the way to recovery. I have taken 2 months off in-between employment which has been good for the soul. Currently in NYC visiting my dear daughter and having an absolute blast here - getting home to Locust Valley on the 1 am Train from NYC most nights and using the brilliant CitiBike system to cycle all over Manhattan. The subway has confused me completely and had to cycle from far away to get back to the city again, but safer than trying to take another subway even further away. All the best to you all.

I have personally not once looked on social media to see what the ex is up to. I even deleted her from my Watsapp so she can only get me on an SMS. For me it was easier to forget her that way and have stuck to it without fail. When she makes excuses to come fetch her remaining stuff, i make sure I put it outside in the back yard and leave a hidden key to the back gate and I then go visit a friend so I don't have to see her. Works for me. I did notice however that she did like a post on my feed where my girlfriend and I were seen together, so she must be looking what I am up to.

Shu, you guys were right about the hateful messages eventually arriving. Seems there is a sudden upsurge since discovering that I am a very happy chappy with my lady. Nice to be in a happy place and able to ignore it all. Even after I had to give up the last of my furniture that I lost in the settlement and was eventually collected.

Never posted on Facebook of my new life yet and she has never been a contact/ friend on Facebook even when we were married [emoji54]

No chance, never seen me on this site and no interest in cycling [emoji1]

I got a message from the Ex complaining about how I am only now doing things that I did not do while I was married, and how differently things could have turned out had I done them before. I didn't bother to answer but I am getting the feeling she may be regretting her move, or she just had too much wine when she pressed "send"

Ok, understand. Makes sense now because you stll have kids to raise. Didn't think of that.Glad this thread is helping also as it did and still does me. Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Hey Amberdrake I personally have never heard of post divorce counselling and was wondering what the reason for it was if it seems to be more painful than helpful ? Is it not better just to part company than dig through years of hurt if you have already decided to let it/her go ?

The fun starts after we get over the hurt and realise that you cannot undo what's done and dusted and move on without looking back too often. [emoji106] Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Brilliant descriptions wheelsuck. I was lucky and only met one crazy since my divorce, the others have been great but only friend material in the end. Great to hear you eventually found the right kind of crazy for you.[emoji106] Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Nope. She's taken in any case. Nice try [emoji1] Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Funny you should ask, my little J.R curled up on her lap while we were watching TV the other night. So that should suffice Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

I met the family of my Girlfriend this weekend and it seems I got the nod from the Old bullet and her sister even whispered in my ear when I left that she is glad I make her sister happy. Happy day's, hope I do better than my Argus time[emoji12] Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Thank goodness I got the dishwasher as my mate gave it to me 10 years ago as it was broken and I managed to fix it as was only an earth fault Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Unfortunately it was all inherited stuff from her Family which was excluded in our ANC, so it's all her's.

So I got an sms again from the ex today saying she is coming to fetch all her remaining items that she left at my house including all the pictures on the wall, the silver knives and forks, the fancy crockery I use for guests and the dining room table and chairs. I had hoped she had forgotten about all that stuff as I still use/need them. Another blow to my future bank balance. Oh holes !

I found it very difficult in the beginning to read the signs of whether a girl just wanted to be friend material or more - being so long out of the game it was confusing as hell and I got burned early on. Then I decided to go out with a few different girls just for company and that was far easier and less complicated until eventually the right one just came along and I could tell that she was more than just a mate. Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Still no chance

I don't think she would give me permission to splash her picture on the net, but you can trust me - you guys have known me long enough - she is a decent lady, looks don't mean that much in my book, but she definitely isn't lacking

My latest update was a bit strange but it seems that my Ex is actually happy that I am happy again and has realized I need to be more a part of my son's life than I am at the moment. So My son invited me to watch him at his sport on Sunday , so I asked him if my GF could also come as she wanted to see him in action as he is very good and represents RSA internationally. He won his event but ended up doing in his ankle ligaments and as I was about to rush to his side, I saw the Ex appear before I got to him, so I backed off and waited till she went back to her seat before approaching him. Anyway, later that evening I get an SMS from her saying she was so glad to see me watching my son and he was so chuffed having his father there and she then says I have a nice looking G/F and how happy she is for me. Was a bit taken aback but it seems she is genuinely happy for me and there was no animosity so I think we may have reached the point where we may as well talk to each other again as all that hurt from both our side has passed so we can move on. She never came over to greet us, but at least it is a start.

Having some fun time with my Son and his/my mates last weekend. https://vimeo.com/319299610 Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

Same happened to me in the beginning, car needs service, please can you help/do the service and some repairs. Sorry babes, that privilege is no longer applicable. Have to do my own laundry and cooking now. Get a mechanic dear.At the time I was too angry with her but I still wouldn't do it now either. That's the new reality of a broken partnership. You do your own stuff and I will do mine. Sent from my SM-G960F using Tapatalk

So far so good, it's so nice to have someone in my life again who I can care for and who cares for me. What a change from 1 year ago. Never imagined such a turn around. Fun easy times ahead.

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I just ignore the hurtful comments completely and it diffuses the start of an argument and takes the wind out of their sails. I actually feel quite smug when I get to ignore an SMS or email and it burns the ex to get no answer back.