New Landy new life

Oh crap - means my choice of matt black fittings, like a weaverbird nest, may end on the dump [emoji44]

You left out question 4 which is the most important: 4. Will another bird ever move in here and use this bathroom the way it looks now . - go work more to pay for the repairs and ride less

I am busy renovating my Bathroom now which I had promised Her to do many years ago. I feel a little bit guilty about that one. I never had the time to organize it before, but now have a bit more spare time on my hands.

Hermit mode sounds like a great idea - may just try that this week.

Wow that is cool - I have not had that hug just yet today, few hours still to go, maybe I will get one from at least my daughter.....

So I used the mediator that you are using as you provided to me at the time, and I overtook you to the finish line. How weird is that ?

So today I am a free man aswell - The court apparently has finalized the divorce yesterday. Don't feel a thing as yet - still a bit numb. On with my new life. Cheers for all the advice and support guys and girls.

I fully understand your feelings on that too. I also hate coming home and not being able to share how my day went, or come back from a ride/race and no-one to clean out my grazes and feel sorry for me or encourage me any longer. I also don't want to be alone until I am old - been married since about 24 years old so don't know how to be on my own. The one good thing that happened yesterday is that my Daughter had a fallout with her flat-mate and returned to live with me after being out the house for the last 3.5 years. Difficult to get used to, but nice at the same time.

From what I have noticed being in this situation now and speaking to guys and girls in a similar situation, it seems that the ladies find it easier to let go of a bad relationship and move on easier. They also have a stronger bond with their female friends to help them deal with it and offer them support.That's my take on it but better to hear from them directly.

Cool, no worries.

I will try and answer as best I can. Marriage was not deigned as a trap at all. If you think back to when you were first married it was really great. Because we don't follow the manual, we end up through our own fault's in a mess. I personally don't question the rules set out or why, as you say it is either one sided or the other partner want's out, but I just believe as it says, that each marriage was set out for us. One has the free choice to leave yes, but there will obviously be judgement one day, but at least those that do believe, have the Grace at the end when we eventually push daisies. Hope that explains it more or less correctly.

Yes we are and will be judged for that one day. It was her call. I am just saying how it was designed to be for success.

Thanks, just offering my opinion and don't want to start a debate as I know that would end badly.

I agree with that too - never did it. Edit - re-read your post and cannot say above actually- only guilty of not doing it while married in all honesty.

I believe that God chooses the partner for us and it is up to us both to keep the marriage together through sacrifice and doing our part without expecting anything in return. If you do this there is a good chance of success. As it says, husbands love your wives unconditionally and wives respect and honour your husband unconditionally. (Know I will get flamed for that one)

I agree. Have also a female friend that I have been seeing since my split and we have been hanging out with no complications or intent to take things further but we at least spend time in each others company doing fun stuff now and again when we feel like company.

On point there kosmo - Maybe a bit of overshare on my part but helps with the healing process.

I'm in luck then - drive an SRX Bakkie

Recently my daughter tells me I need to buy better clothes and get a hair cut as jeans and. T-shirt she says won't cut it. So she took me shopping for some new rags and I got myself a crew cut. Last night my younger beother took me out for a meal and the waitress starts flirting with me for no apparent reason. Wow, what a nice boost to the confidence. Needless to say, my Brother was astonished. Almost like there is a sign above my head saying "single again" Anyway. Although the pain is still strong, these little things help for the future outlook.

Good advice - will do. Love the cheese and cracker analogy

Just kidding around but it is nice to have just the company for now - even if just a friendship so far

Aaaaah pleeeeease ? She is so nice.

Our court date is set for 14 May - wife has to appear, not me. Still have to settle my bill with the Mediator end of the month which is going to hurt me for a few months until ex-wife pay's me back half when she gets her/my pension payout. Life is a struggle for me still, head is all over the place, work, home, ex and someone new on my horizon.(Far away but in my sights) I am still overall happier but miss my kid quite a lot - spent this last weekend with him and had a good boy's day at killarney watching what we both enjoy. Don't get to see him much however as he is so busy with his sport, always training for the next big event.

Great to hear. Kudos for rescuing it in time.

Strength to you mate. Know how you feeling right now.Also broke down on the way back from the Sheriff after signing my part of the divorce