New Landy new life

Yes, it was at the time so she worked far less hours in a week. I have heard this is correct yes.

I just felt that I had been given a much higher burden to bear than my ex due to her much lower earnings at the time we were divorced. She is now working more (i.e. normal) hours as a permanent employee and I thought it fair that she carries the load accordingly instead of me bearing the 75% of his expenses. I also hear rumor that she is giving up her flat that I pay toward rent to move in with her boyfriend together with my son.

It only specifies an annual increase but no mention about financial position change affecting the agreed amount

Another question I have regarding maintenance for one's child. If circumstances have changed considerably in regard to one's spouses salary used in the calculation of the % of who pays for what as well as the child now being 18 and earning a salary. How do you go about re-negotiating the payment terms that are in the court papers if it was done through a mediator. P.S: The payment term was set up to expire when he reaches 21

Similar to the iron-pig

Going to take quite some time to get used to all the mood swings. Sterkte voor

So finally have someone really special in my life again, things are looking up.

Sigzaktly. Brilliant post.

Well said, divorce is the last resort, but if they have made up their mind already, there is not much you can do.

Sorry to hear bud. Just remember we are all here for you as the rollercoaster is going to get very bumpy ahead for at least 12 months. Give and us us a P.M if you want to chat, either online or in person.

Thanks Uni - might explain why she had me drop my son there, instead of at her flat. P.S I had to tow a our convoy leader in a 3,5 ton fully loaded Nissan Patrol about 40 km back to Francis Town due to a broken Alternator bearing. The owner was not a Landy fan (Which he made quite clear at the start of our trip) so it was hard for him to accept my offer of a tow, seeing as I was the only vehicle without a trailer/caravan [emoji23]

Yes, it did get better over our trip together.

Thanks, yes that is good. Should enjoy that at least.

Ii was just so sad knowing the love of my life is shacked up with another man The size of the house or wealth was not the issue.

I see my Ex is with a new wealthy guy so I don't think she needs the money. She had the cheek to make me drop my son at his house on Sunday when I got back from Botswana which really hurt me real bad, and ended the high of my holiday with my son.

Thanks chaps. Maybe I was wrong, but the holiday cost me a small fortune but worth the time and memory with my son so I will take advice and just pay up. As you were [emoji3]

Need some more advice. I had my son with me from 18 December to 6 January and so I decided to deduct a portion I thought reasonable from my Alimony to my Ex to cover a small fraction of my expences and today when I return she sends me a threatening SMS that she is laying charges for a breach of a court order. Will I be looked down at by the court if I fight this or do I just give up?

Finally back in RSA after 3 weeks in the Bush with my son and some mates in Namibia/Botswana and Zim. It has taken my mind far away from my troubles last year. Still have 1400km in the Defender to get back home but she has been running like a dream. All the best to you all this year.

I also still struggle like hell with the rollercoaster ride through good, sad and lonely days that is my new existence. It seemed to be going good for a while and then hit a big bump again and cut me down to size all over again. Especially hearing the X has moved on.

How is it going Donk ?

Wishing you strength for tomorrow mate - I feel almost like I know you as we have walked a similar path on this topic together along with all the help and well wishes

Kalahari 300 TDi - Thanks Mate

Yay - new life starts now Need to update my profile name

That's a hard pill to swallow Honk [emoji52]I haven't even thought yet about packing up all my kid's old toys, books, and photo albums. I just locked them all in one room for now until I am strong enough to face the fact that they will never live here again.

Talking about Landrover guys [emoji16]