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One more question to those with experience on Maintenance for children. The way my portion has been calculated works out that 31% of my Nett Salary (take home amount) every month is going to his support. Does that sound reasonable ? Also, the wording in the draft contract states that I am liable until the age of 18 or until he is self supporting, whichever event last occurs. Should there not be a cutoff age to prevent this going on for many years should he not find employment or not able to support himself as some children can end up living until age 30 with their parents. I very much doubt he is this way inclined and am sure he will be a success, but safer to have a cut off age at say 23 or so ?? Opinions appreciated.

We do have it listed in the divorce agreement that she has to pay back my portion of the deposit and take over the lease when the year is up and she is liable for the damages and or loss of the deposit should that ever happen. Only thing worries me still is my employment is a bit sketchy due to company performance of late, so not sure what would happen should I become unemployed suddenly ! Difficult not to be absent when he will be living with Mum and only will visit when he wants too. He sees his mom having no money and is, I assume, blaming me for not paying her the normal monthly budget I gave her in the past.

Bit complicated as she is black listed and can only un-list herself when she get's my pension payout but we cannot live together for that long so I agreed to help with part of deposit and do the lease in my name for the first year. Hope that does not come and bite me in the ass.

Struggeling to get finality on the divorce settlement as our mediator is very slow in responding. Finally settled on a flat but I have to sign the lease for 12 month's. Packed up the house contents last night and she moves out this weekend comming. Going to be better and more peacefull at least. Unfortunately my son has pulled away from me and he doesn't want to talk really. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

I will definitely be taking a fair break until my head is right again Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

No. Just planning ahead Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

That sounds a bit weird. So do you drive around until the App decides someone walking in the street is the right match ?(Just kidding - it must be ok if so many know of this site) Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

So assume some sort of dating site then.Did you find out they were loonies on the date or while sifting through profiles. I am at work so probably won't be a good idea to browse for Tinder. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Explain what this Tinder is and how it works ? Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Good luck Honkdonk Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Yes I really hope so. The lies have been all through the marriage but my kid's have both learned this from her and I know if they continue in that vane they will also come to grief later in life. Truth like a bubble, always comes to the surface

So how long has it been without being with the fairer sex. ? I miss that part and the care they can give you so I would like to get back into that one day, not too far down the road. It scares me where to start though. I have a female friend from a past life who I have been having the odd dinner, picnic or beer with just to chat and I have made it clear that it is just a companionship arrangement and she seems fine with it as she has been single for years and has a few guy friends as well.

I have dropped from 72 to 65 kg in three months since this all started. Firstly the hard physical graft in Nigeria for 3 weeks, sweating like a pig for 12 to 16 hours a day and then forced to make my own food when back at home, do choose more veggies and fruit but eat junk in the day as I am lazy/tired to make myself lunch in the am.

Pretty sure it is a skelem but at this stage I don't really care. Suddenly noticed last year new fancy underwear in her cupboard and coming home at all hours of the morning "out with a friend". It makes no difference to any settlements as I only am liable to maintain my son

Hope it's not my wife who asked , I don't even know who my wife's best friend is. That's haw far apart we had drifted.

Thanks - have a road and mountain bike still - not yet forced to sell either, but thanks for the thought Shebeen

Thanks bud. Will take all this to heart. Especially like the "yes man" idea. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

May be so, but I cannot go into overdraft to cover it Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

It still does hurt as I know when she leaves I am going to be totally alone. She has a much larger circle of friends to lean on. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Yes. I told her that she asked to leave so she should have made a financial plan for her future and not merely assume I would step in and bail her out. I said those days are finished and I will not be going into overdraft for her ever again. She said she left on weekends to go to stay at a "friend" who works at some game farm near Langebaan so she does not have to look at my sad face all weekend. That comment really stung. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Wow that got ugly. Now everybody in the house are mad as snakes that I dare suggest that the deposit is her problem. Talk about a backfire Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

You may be right there Gen. Let me chat with her tonight. She goes away weekend's somewhere so why not permanent. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

The fitter I get, the less my Titanium pins complain. Weird but nice. Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

Folks in KZN Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk

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