Amberdrake

She was, however she made other arrangements. I am being serious here I was in no state to drive the distance required. My father and sister was standing next to me when call came and sister was shaking her head before I even said no. She could have called my dad he would also have helped. I am the go to guy because she wants to reconcile, I don't. So i have to play the bad guy and distance myself, and force my time with kid or be left with her interrupting it all the time. I left for many reasons, none of them have changed in her other than she decided to see a counselor now. I did say I would also attend for best of my Child after divorce, but her appointment clashed with my time to drop of kid at school....... something she knew it would do. So I politely declined and we will have to make alternate arranged time.

Soooo Ex strips her clutch this mng (the car) on way to work (not exactly sure what happened tbh) I get a call, whats wrong with car possibly, so im like no freaking clue (TBH I was dead tired). Few minutes later new call, can you fetch me, I'm like nope sorry impossible just got home after working all night and being up 24hrs I can't see straight its irresponsible for me to drive now(50km in traffic odd). So i'm the bad guy now cause I had other things going. Days like today remind me why I left.

I have seen this first hand with my friend and his now Fiance, they love her too bits. Mom is the main parental guardian, due too his work at the time of divorce. They are hoping to have kids around more often and have even managed to get more week days.

I Agree Its the one thing I keep doing.

Yes controlled groups, IE family whatsapp, Even the facebook is friends only as far as I am aware ill have to check again the settings.

Sorry My post doesn't show it but I do exactly that. I refuse to argue, I turn and walk away. I spend time with my daughter as I can as much as I can. All of the time I take pictures for the family and friends and post it on groups. I have no need to prove anything as I spent 2 weeks watching her alone during dec. I do my best and this fight is about the health of my child and that's what makes it hard, I can see the change in daughter from with me and grandfather VS what we see when she just came from home(ex staying there alone atm with her).

Look she been hostile all along, Lawyer advised me to take full weekend with kid. Ex had stipulated she wanted her home at night every night (i did not agree). Got a lawyer letter via my lawyer about how irresponsible and impulsive this was. I shrugged it off tbh, she hadn't even bothered to call me when I sent her whatsapp i'm taking daughter to visit grandparents. She lies and tries to set traps, where she will get me to do something "incriminating" as in to indicate I am bad father etc. Anyways my daugther smiled and had fun this past weekend. We posted Multiple photos on groups and she saw she was safe and never once asked re her health. Yet the letter stated she was concerned for child's safety etc. I look back and I wonder where is the woman I once loved?

Things change so quickly.

Goes so fast! mine is 14months atm (1year 2months) and she is running around chasing pets and having a ball. Granddad is her favorite. She also figured out how to open things right around pulling up stage just FYI start putting door locks on etc.

My thoughts are with all of them!

I don't disagree with the sentiment of supporting your grandchild, But with that said if your paying support, there should be some kind of interaction IMHO (I would want to be part of the life of kid).

This is scary stuff guys, So now we have to watch our own winky and those of our kids...... really seems silly. I'm sure the law was made with good intentions.

This video is really good!

My lawyer is one seriously scary woman, Nice as can be but wow she went "Ok this is what we doing", the question was implied but wasn't really up for negotiation. I am gonna say one thing though if not for my friend (Best Friends fiance) I don't think anything would have gone nearly as well. Having someone else looking out for your interests makes a difference. She made me tell the lawyer everything(I forget she took notes all during week about everything we talked about). If you're in this position try and have a friend like that around, makes the world of difference.

The glass is always full......... it might just be a combination of water and air instead of just water. Just to mess with things a little bit. My little excursion this weekend to get away has gone really well. I went to visit my mom and she needed more than I did. Lazy relaxed and feeling good.

I take no offence, I have a thick internet skin (apparently real life its way thinner than I thought).

To me the hub is partly home, Its a place I go to keep up to date on news and I Lurk reading posts. Cycling hasn't really been something I have been able to get time lately but I treasured my last trip to Jonkershoek month and half ago. This thread specifically encouraged me to work on marriage rather than end it. With no changes happening from the other side of relationship, and some hurtful words once I brought up how I felt we needed to work on things. I went back and sat down long and hard before making my choice. Today I smile, yesterday I smiled. I have not just smiled because i'm happy about life in years. I would however advice anyone considering things to speak more to your friends and family. I have shocked a large amount of my friends and family because I kept it to myself and hid my pain.

I do this, and i have a chuckle after wards usually few hours later. But in the moment i have to maintain the cool. TBH I am proud to say I have not lost my cool once. I shut up and walk out way before that.

I will do that, just exporting it first as well. I am very fortunate to have the support I do. If I was alone I don't think I would have made it out without some huge meltdowns.

So i'm doing paperwork tons of it. At the same time as much as I would like to end things amicably the constant barrage of msg's blaming me for things never said or done is really wearing on me. Yesterday I actually managed to get angry for first time since I left, because of what she said. With all of this I am still trying to be nice so one smiles and calms down and continues right? One thing I am thankful for right now is that I don't drink cause that would have ended horribly.

I had Bubbles (Daughter) this weekend (days, long story) we visited with my friend and his kids, she had a blast all smiles and happiness, she went home exhausted daily. The wife has also calmed down and things look like it might move in a more friendly if unhappy manner. Don't get me wrong Saturday I had a extremely hard night after some hurtful things she said. But i eat the humble pie and just try to keep things going forward. Bubbles must come first

Sorry that gave me a good chuckle at your expense

Thanks fortunately the IRL side has things covered mostly. It is disturbing how the smallest thing will set you off into a depressed/upset state tho. Want to get back on bike next week think it will help, this weekend I get Daughter so gonna spend all time I can with her.

I have been following this thread since start, It encouraged me to work on my relationship when it started. Unfortunately the results were not all that excellent. Long story short things gone from bad to worse and I decided to end it, wife did not take it very well and I am staying with family. Fortunately I get to see daughter regularly ATM and should continue that way. My friends and family have been INSANE amount of support. Saturday was worst day of my life in every way possible.

Great News Landy!