That is an interesting question and in my opinion it is entirely up to you and how you portray yourself. The question always comes up during this dating process: why did you get divorced? And you better have a good answer. Let me explain. If you come across as vulnerable you will be taken for a ride by the first narcissistic female dog that comes across your path, which will lead to your downfall if you don't recognise the situation and immediately put on your running shoes and run in the opposite direction. That happened to me, twice. And it took me a long time to pull myself towards myself after that. There are people that can sniff out your vulnerability better than a tracking dog, and they will try and use you for their own gain at whatever cost. Read up and educate yourself on narcissistic personality disorder. They walk among us, and they are everywhere. The older you get, the more difficult it is to find “normal” people. You see, it is also natural to overcompensate for the things that lead to your failed marriage, which in itself has its own pitfalls. You end up being someone that is not you. It is ok to try and improve on yourself, but i don't think you should completely sacrifice who you are for the sake of another person. I tried Tinder, i met some crazy people on there. Including a transgender person. And they are not as easy to identify as you might think! Needless to say, i put on my reeboks and ran for the hills! I am 5 years single, and at peace with myself. I have no stress other than the usual financial issues. Do i miss having someone around? Yes of course. But i am at a point now where going where i want when i want is far more appealing to me than being in a relationship. Get a friend with benefits. You will thank me later.
