New baby in the house ....

[V12man]

interesting reading how different each couple handles the raising of their babies/kids.

 

We have 2 boys aged 4 and 2 and have a daughter due in July and I am so excited for the third one to arrive. (2 boys also have birthdays in July)

 

We just decided from day one of parenting that the kids would adapt to our life and not the other way around. My wife and I are both very active people and enjoy training and doing lots of different events. Both my boys were 6 weeks old and supporting me at the trans baviaans.

 

My wife also breast fed for 9 months with each boy which kind of makes it even harder for her to have freedom. What worked for us was I was very hands on In Terms of changing nappies bathing etc. So we were constantly helping each other which would free up time for us to go and train for an hour or three without feeling guilty etc. lots of give and take. I also used to wake up early with the baby and let wife sleep late. By the time I went to work baby would nap again and I would quietly tuck him back in next to mom who could then sleep late each morning.

 

Learn the small tricks that will make your wife happy and she will repay you with training sessions etc but also remember your baby is only a baby once and you don't won't to wake up one day realize you missed it all

 

Good luck

 

One thing I forgot to mention is we have a very good support system in having 2 sets of awesome grand parents which does help a lot and understand a lot of people don't always have this

You almost blew it there Fabes - I watch your kids grow up on grannys facebook feed..... you lucked out on that one completely...

[Beesrib]

As mentioned above, you will need to find what works for you, and very important, works for your wife.  With both of my kids, for the first year I basically parked the bike and did very little riding.  The young ones takes up a lot of time and attention, but you made the decision to become a dad (well mostly), so you have a responsibility.  The supporting of the missus is very important, and working a full day, coming home I need to do my bit to help.

 

Maybe try something new that is intense and takes a bit less time.  I started running,  and a quick 20-30 minutes at high intensity is more than enough.  Ohterwise, early mornings and IDT

 

Good luck and enjoy the privilege of fatherhood.

[Squier]

You need two things: a plan and a supportive wife that buys into your plan.

 

My eldest was 3 months old when he was on the starting line watching me set off on my first sani2c. He is 4 now and my youngest 2 and cycling is as much part of them as it is of me. They were the kids riding their bikes inside the race tent at Berg and Bush.

 

You have to make time for training by planning for it and have your wife buy into your plan. On Saturday mornings I ride for 3 - 6 hours. It's a standard and also moms alone time with her boys. Further to that, you'll be fine with 2 - 4 IDT/spinning workouts of 45 minutes per week. You can get away with 30 minutes if time is an issue. Google Tabatas intervals. Lots of pain in a short period of time, if you do it right.

 

The key to all of this is a super supportive wife, without her you don't have much hope unfortunately. Plan your training time, clear it with her and stick to it.

 

With quality training, you can do sani comfortably on 6 hours a week. "Quality" being the pertinent word in that sentence.

[GLuvsMtb]

On the bright side...

[Skubarra]

We just decided from day one of parenting that the kids would adapt to our life and not the other way around. 

 

I think many of us start out with that idea, unfortunately parenting rarely works that way...

 

But I agree with the gist of the rest of your post. It is important to find that work&life&training balance where everyone is happy most of the time (we all get it wrong occasionally). You have to accept that you can't have it all but with proper planning you can still have a lot!

[V12man]

On the bright side...ImageUploadedByTapatalk1459780150.721271.jpg

True this - and makes mama angry..... be prepared.....

[Crossmonster]

Our little one is 11 weeks old now, and training has been almost non existent. You think you'll sort of keep your fitness with the odd cycle once a week and run every now and then, then the harsh reality hits you right in the middle of Bianchi Baby's Longmere triathlon... You're nowhere close to being ready for this. You grind it out and swear, promise and pray to train harder next time. Which you don't...

 

However what I must say what I've been doing wrong, which allot of guys are mentioning is proper planning. I'm gonna try that! Have a schedule and try stick to that. Bela bela 5150 coming up, want to be fresh and fit for that one, definitely my favourite race.

[LONE TWO]

Our first one is due on Thursday, so very helpful advice on this thread. Thanks guys

[fabes]

Our first one is due on Thursday, so very helpful advice on this thread. Thanks guys

Good luck man. Enjoy the little one. You know if it's a boy or girl?

[Gen]

Our first one is due on Thursday, so very helpful advice on this thread. Thanks guys

All the best for Thursday and enjoy the ride.

[Gen]

Suppose the secret is time management. But I have really found that it was a lot easier to get time in to ride when they were smaller than now.. (14 and 12) the older the get the busier they get...primary school still has sport during the week.. naha..high school it's week days and weekends.. and you travel all over.

 

I blame high school for the fact that my bike is just an ornament[emoji23]

['Dale]

Suppose the secret is time management. But I have really found that it was a lot easier to get time in to ride when they were smaller than now.. (14 and 12) the older the get the busier they get...primary school still has sport during the week.. naha..high school it's week days and weekends.. and you travel all over.

 

I blame high school for the fact that my bike is just an ornament[emoji23]

And energy management too, Gen'

 

When my son arrived, I had time to train

But I couldn't keep my eyes open to follow even a documentary

 

For about 18 months ????

[Frosty]

Any advice out there please as I cannot be the first person to go through this.

Whatever you decide, to ride/train or not... Don't let your expectations get the better of you. Expect that you may not perform as well as you'd expect, but enjoy it when you perform better than expected.

[LONE TWO]

Good luck man. Enjoy the little one. You know if it's a boy or girl?

We don't know we kept it a surprise. One thing I noticed tho is that there is only a handful of different shades of grey you can by haha

[flatwheel]

Thanks for all the advice. So in the end it sort of all worked out ... managed to do the Sani in a better than expected time for a first timer, still married and the little one happy and doing better than ever.

 

In short the one thing that really made a difference was the simple old indoor triner at 04h00 in the morning and going to bed earlier to compensate. Long rides only over the weekend.

 

This gave me quality training time although it was less than planned and the results was good.

 

And like everyone mentioned - most important is still the blessing of the little one :-)

[rpedro]

We have 3 kids and my training involves commuting to work. I have to get to work so I might as well do it on my bike ;-)