QUICK Moral Dilemma PLS HELP

[rad006]

My GF has been asked to be in her Ex`s New music Video.

The song was written about her for her...

She has asked me if I would mind her being in it.

So now do I say NO and be an Arse? Do I say ok and turn a blindeye? Or do I look at the lyrics and storyboard and consider it?

 

Jealously is a reality and there is alot of history between them...

Im caught in the middle...

[gummibear]

The fact that she still sees him would worry me.

[Scooterza]

In my view, I don't want to be with someone unless they are there by their own choice. If you deny her, you will plant a little seed in her mind where she will just think about what it would have been like and if only she could have been in the video etc. If you let her go ahead, and you lose her, she was never yours. If she goes ahead and does it and nothing happens between her and the ex, then she will appreciate your self confidence. BUT I would not stand for any romantic scenes of simulated rumpy pumpy or full on kissing etc. That is off sides and if she asked for your permission to do that, I think you would be justified in feeling like she is not being fair to you.

[rad006]

She doesnt really (Or not to my Knowledge), His Agent called her apparently...

[ichnusa]

let her go... its a defining moment

[Noneking]

[rad006]

defining what?

[Disylizzy]

I would say let her do it. The fact that she asked you, means that she does care about what you think. I think she would appreciate your support a lot.

[rad006]

I wish I was never in the position to be asked... Its alot of stress I dont need. I mean there is no correct way. And if I say ok do it. What will it look like at the end that will offend me?

[rad006]

5 for yes and 3 for No... need more votes and advice here

[CAAD4]

How much is she being paid? Maybe she can help you pay for the goods those yobs stole off your bike? Picture on couch?

 

Seriously, Ricky ultimately let her make the call. It could be a good break for her. Don't bear grudges, life's too short.

[Disylizzy]

I wish I was never in the position to be asked... Its alot of stress I dont need. I mean there is no correct way. And if I say ok do it. What will it look like at the end that will offend me?

 

 

Maybe say that you think this is a cool opportunity for her, that you do feel uncomfortable that she's interacting with her ex this way, but you support whatever decision that she makes. That way she know's you're behind her, but she knows how you feel.

[rad006]

Hey Hey never thought of the money hahahahaha....

 

Yeah Im thinking the same thing. At the end of the day we all make decisions the partner doesnt like its all about how we handle them I suppose.

[Thermophage]

Only question you need to ask is: Do you trust her?

If Yes, then let her do it. If No...then you have problems.

Nothing wrong with people staying in touch with their ex IMHO.

 

[rad006]

See I need more DizzyLizzy comments thanks Girl....

 

She knows abit of how I feel. The rest will be told to her tomorro

[rad006]

Caad your comment has meaning in it. Cos if she asks for money than he knows its business only and not pleasure.But she would never ask him I know that much