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And just like that the thread is resurrected! The evanesance song 'bring me back to life' came to mind. Damn.....now it's stuckin my head. Damn you shebeen ????????????

A good friend of mine has them. They are clever,energetic,loving and are very healthy. When the female was still a pup she was bloody naughty

***big hugs*** @ dizzy

Amazing how the right person understands that you need some space to heal. I was scared of putting someone in the hole where husband was instead of letting that space heal first. It would also not have been fair to that other person. So eventhough I also found someone soon I kept him at arms length and let things be casual for a long time. And that is why I also kept my own place. I think he may be the right one because he understands my independence freakoutmeter. Like when I tell him I need to go clean my house but I actually want to just watch crap on my laptop and eat a whole milk tart to myself.

For me it has really taken a while to trust again. I've been so defensive of my independence after being so financially dependent in my marriage. I've feared being vulnerable, thinking I could be taken for granted. All things heal with time and it has been a journey of getting my confidence back. I turned 40 a few days ago and now feel like I've 'come into myself' and ready to really share my life again now that I've got to know who I really am.

Our puffies here in kzn are so dark. This boy was sunning himself in my grow tunnel among my aloe pots. Moved him out and released him a few kay's down the road in the forest. The staff still don't want to go weed there a week later. They call the puffies 'kaiser chiefs'

@swiss...I opened a can of worms.....and then closed it again! Seems you saw a few leak out

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My sons snake. He got it a month ago and since then it has grown fast. My boy reckons its better than his sisters hedgehog. The hedgehog nips now and again.. the cornsnake is really placid.

Lots of ideas and opinions here. Personally I do eat meat. I do not wish to enter any debates..just wish to introduce and idea myself and an open minded vegan freind of mine discussed recently. We agreed that life should be considered and it is more 'responsible' to rather choose to eat a large animal like a cow who will feed many people than a smaller animal like a chicken that will feed one family for a day. Less lives lost.

I do the same. Max out everything first before upgrade. During war half our okes dont use their attacks and then we lose by only one star. Peevs me off.

level 10 clan. Im a seven. These dark games were easy. Just raided dark elixer drills and storages =)

Hi there. Anyone playing clash of clans? Im really into it but have one snag. We have a lekker clan but a few folks dont pull their weight when its time for clan games or war. Booted a few slackers out. Anyone looking for a clan?

Not necessarily...you are now in a position to adopt the "take it or leave it " strategy. Eg...do your bathroom the way you like, leave all your bikes in the lounge and indulge yourself in all your hearts desires. The right girl will accept it or just move off. Good long term strategy as you are priming her from the start to manage her expectations.

Dont bother with the bathroom. Whatever you do a new bird is going to want to change it anyway! As long as thr toilet can flush its cool

Me too. Only recently. Out of respect to my ex who is also a hubber I will not discuss those details. All I can say is that it is hard. You find out you are stronger than you think and take it day by day. Like hacc, I have also learnt to do many things like fix all the computer junk my ex used to do. I also have a toolbox, and what I dont know I google. I even learnt how to recharge my car battery with jumper cables after I left the lights on one night.

I fully understand the theology..but your conclusions are based on the bible being true. Ill leave things there to not derail the thread further. Thanks for sharing.

The religious issue is a hectic one....to be trapped in a marriage for life because of a relgious vow and fear of hellfire is sad, when one partner does not pull their weight. The other partner is left to either abondon their faith or live a life fufilling their vow to unconditionally respect and honour the other partner. There is a word for lifelong service like this of the unconditional kind.....its called slavery. This is in terms of folks that take the "till death we part" very literally.

I see your point. My point is that marriage has two facets...the legal contact and the vow two people make to each other and sometimes before their god as well. Its the vowing part I cant do. I dont want to make lifelong vows I cannot be certain I can keep.

Very true. To vow to love someone for the rest of your life is insane. I think marriage licences should be like drivers licences that naturally expire after a certain period of time. Couples can choose to renew if they want to. Going forward..the best I could ever offer someone will be my today...tomorrow who knows? I want to always be free to have that choice.

Thanks vettie.

Rode the hiking trails at the Umgeni Nature Reserve today.

Thanks for the help! As for the fishing stories....the bites were huuuuge the one I caught not really..... probably the smallest recorded ever! This little guy was released.