Missing PE Cyclist

[Ed-Zulu]

R.I.P.

 

Policeman deal with enormous amounts of stress, the nature of their work life cycle is never really positive and no policeman ever escapes unscathed. Some cope with it by means of self-therapy and others crack.

 

Years after leaving the service you keep on dealing with it. Spare a thought for the upstanding men in blue, they take a beating every single day and so do their wives, husbands, children and friends and family!

[Sepia]

R.I.P.

 

Policeman deal with enormous amounts of stress, the nature of their work life cycle is never really positive and no policeman ever escapes unscathed. Some cope with it by means of self-therapy and others crack.

 

Years after leaving the service you keep on dealing with it. Spare a thought for the upstanding men in blue, they take a beating every single day and so do their wives, husbands, children and friends and family!

I used to believe in this but now, not too much.

There are some good souls in the force and then there are .........

 

Sounds like the late policeman was the former.  Must have been so very difficult.

[mikkelz]

R.I.P.

[Boerklong]

This is a sad story indeed. I don't think it is exclusive to our Police Force. Money problems go very deep in South African society and people tend to think by ending their lives they are solving their problem. (I do not know this was his case)

The destruction left behind is unfathomable. The world can be a very cruel mistress.

I hope to some degree the people left behind can find closure. Following this thread has left me with many emotions.

So true. Makes oneselfs problems seem petty.

[BenReaper]

Often when I hear or read of a suicide, and usally when a firearm is involved , I tend to think of Kurt Cobain and that song from REM - 'Everybody Hurts' pops into my head.

I cant Imagine what one must go through to reach the point where you feel there is no return .

Condolonces and strength to the family and loved ones left behind, my prayers are with them.

 

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[PetiteGiant]

This is so sad. I went to school with his wife. I see so many comments where people are saying, they cannot imagine how one can get to a place that dark, where one decides to do that - buy let me tell you, as someone who has been battling Depression for years, Depression is a BLIKSEM. And I think it is harder for men, because they are less likely to go and see a therapist or psychiatrist or take medication or just talk about things. I am a female and I make use of all these things, but I think it is harder for men to do that... I will always write Depression with a capital 'D'. So I guess what I want to say is, ifor you are a man struggling with Depression, please reach out - especially for your loved ones' sake. Xxx

[fabes]

This is so sad. I went to school with his wife. I see so many comments where people are saying, they cannot imagine how one can get to a place that dark, where one decides to do that - buy let me tell you, as someone who has been battling Depression for years, Depression is a BLIKSEM. And I think it is harder for men, because they are less likely to go and see a therapist or psychiatrist or take medication or just talk about things. I am a female and I make use of all these things, but I think it is harder for men to do that... I will always write Depression with a capital 'D'. So I guess what I want to say is, ifor you are a man struggling with Depression, please reach out - especially for your loved ones' sake. Xxx

Sorry to hear about your battle with depression- Good advice to others struggling

[GrumpyOldGuy]

Sorry to hear about your battle with depression- Good advice to others struggling

Yah, a friend of mine many years ago took his own life, he went through a very tough divorce and was on his own, no one knew even he was depressed, he still functioned normally in the public eye, but alone at home I think he had too much time to think and he became suicidal, he had no one to turn to and no one to help him, and it ended with him taking his own life.

 

We must never underestimate what another person is going through, we must remember to be nice, always!. 

[Kalahari Vegmot]

Sad. Reminds me of the TW thread.

 

Didn't follow at all and then read the first page and optimistic there'll be a good outcome. Only to read a little further and realise that's not the case.

 

Strongs to f&f

[Stretch]

This is so sad. I went to school with his wife. I see so many comments where people are saying, they cannot imagine how one can get to a place that dark, where one decides to do that - buy let me tell you, as someone who has been battling Depression for years, Depression is a BLIKSEM. And I think it is harder for men, because they are less likely to go and see a therapist or psychiatrist or take medication or just talk about things. I am a female and I make use of all these things, but I think it is harder for men to do that... I will always write Depression with a capital 'D'. So I guess what I want to say is, ifor you are a man struggling with Depression, please reach out - especially for your loved ones' sake. Xxx

 

well said....i get so irritated when people say "suicide is selfish" etc etc. Until you have walked in the shoes of someone going through the turmoil you will never understand.

[Nettie R]

This is so sad. I went to school with his wife. I see so many comments where people are saying, they cannot imagine how one can get to a place that dark, where one decides to do that - buy let me tell you, as someone who has been battling Depression for years, Depression is a BLIKSEM.

Thank you for speaking up.

Very few people understand that depression is 'not just a feeling', it's a chemical imbalance in your brain. Once you hit a low, nothing matters. It's not that you don't care about your family, it feels like there is no way of getting out of that slump you're in and taking your own life is the quickest route. Very few things seem worth it and repurcussions of your actions don't matter to you.

Let's all reserve our critique on how someone can do this and rather reach out to someone close to you going through a rough time.

Unless you've walked that mile in her/his shoe....

[Moriarty]

well said....i get so irritated when people say "suicide is selfish" etc etc. Until you have walked in the shoes of someone going through the turmoil you will never understand.

Before you get irritated you should perhaps think a little more. It is very rare to find a person who commits suicide who lives a completely isolated life. There are often many people, family/friends/colleagues, who are connected to the victim in ways which often go deeper than the perception of outsiders. The act then detonates a bomb in those peoples lives which has significant long term negative effect. 

[mazambaan]

This is so relevant with good comments about the black dog of depression. The scary part is that I feel you can recognise it in its mild form but still be paralysed in the downward cycle of inaction. You can know what you need to do in the doable range - re-arrange deadlines, talk to creditors, friends and family, get professional help, ride your bike, swim, surf etc  But you just cannot bring yourself to do anything meaningful, making the situation worse.

 

Until you just want to escape, run away, be rid of it.  All of this while on the surface you seem to be functioning adequately, normally. Hence the surprise when you pop and act irrationally.

 

I have not known anyone close who committed suicide but a good number of acquaintances. I virtually every case, friends said "why didn't he (I only know of men who have taken their own lives) speak about it, ask for help, we would have helped"?

 

I call this mild because you can recognise it, deeper depression is obviously a serious mental illness.

[Nettie R]

Before you get irritated you should perhaps think a little more... The act then detonates a bomb in those peoples lives which has significant long term negative effect.

Maybe so but a person suffering from severe depression who commits suicide does not do so to spite anyone or to be selfish.repurcussions of their act doesn't play a part in their decision. A psychiatrist said it best: they wan't not to die as much to stop living.

[Stretch]

Maybe so but a person suffering from severe depression who commits suicide does not do so to spite anyone or to be selfish.repurcussions of their act doesn't play a part in their decision. A psychiatrist said it best: they wan't not to die as much to stop living.

 

I could not have answered this better

[PetiteGiant]

Maybe so but a person suffering from severe depression who commits suicide does not do so to spite anyone or to be selfish.repurcussions of their act doesn't play a part in their decision. A psychiatrist said it best: they wan't not to die as much to stop living.

That is the TRUTH!! Like I mentioned before, I suffer from Depression, and I have two kids who I love more than my heart cand handle, and the most caring husband, but when the black dog bites and suicide thoughts come, it's about RELIEVING THE UNBEARABLE pain. At the time it's only about stopping the absolutely unbearable pain. About finding relief.