ive mentioned it in passing on here once or twice but i thought ill share my episode for the members still trying their best to lose or even start. About 5years ago i was at my heaviest. 105kg. (EDIT: actually later closer to 115kg - more below) Seeing the scale go over 3 digits for the first time was my wake up call. im tall (197cm) though, so with that comes all the anecdotal BS family and friends spew about length vs weight ratio blablabla. Well i didn't feel comfortable in my skin for someone who just hit 32 back then, and succumbing to the sedentary lifestyle, and the possible 'lifestyle diseases' that come with them just didn't feel like something i wanted to happen. I was just plain soft around the edges. So i started my journey learning about everything from caloric expenditure and eating habits to macros and fad diets etc etc...like we all do. I learned a lot. I never really ate unhealthily....though i guess portion size was probably my biggest downfall....that second helping right?. Emotional eating....and stress drinking (job related - although drinking wine while designing helped with creative inhibitions lol). Once i got a hold of that, as well as becoming less emotional about food in general (it is fuel..nothing more), things just started happing on their own almost. I didn't REALLY do anything more than i was already doing....still cycling over some weekends (not religiously but I have always ridden bicycles for fun).....enjoying being outside etc. Nothing major in terms of joining a gym or anything. I've never liked gyms....i feel if you can't motivate yourself to do the work at home or in the street or whatever...then you'll end up donating that gym subscription money to them for free anyway. I had some 10kg dumbbells , my bicycle and some shoes i could run in if I wanted I guess. (I hate running..screw running) That being said....the single biggest thing for me was starting to count what i put in my mouth. it takes you about 6 months for that knowledge to become almost intuitive through daily repetition (so you don't have to carry a scale with you). You'll also shock yourself when you realise just how much more you were actually eating to begin with. Because i was counting, I naturally also started drinking less...because those calories count too. Win win...and the weight just started melting away. When i lost my first 10kg within 3 months...I was hooked. Some people avoid scales...others just go by the way they look and or how clothes feel. I weighed myself EVERY morning. it motivated me and reminded me what i was busy doing. you'll find your biggest hurdleto be family andfriends too. you will start getting comments about looking 'unhealthy' or 'why are you eating so little' or a total disregard for what you are trying to achieve. JUST KEEP GOING. That then became 20kg....and then 30kg, then 35kg... when i finally hit my goal of 80kg. (EDIT: forgot to ad that my starting weight was actually closer to 115kg a few weeks after I was toying with starting as I went into a 'depro beer binge' about being a fatty first haha) (Disclaimer: ...it is an expensive journey....you will need a whole new wardrobe) Everything started getting easier....it's like you are restoring an old clogged up rusty neglected machine to its showroom condition. Your metabolism pics up....your skins looks better, you feel better, you sleep better...you become better at other things too . An efficient machine just does everything better. i was 35 and in better shape than when I was 18 (also 80kg, but stronger now)....and i kept it that way. December 2019 my mother came to visit from Oz for her 60th and obviously the beer, wine, food and festivities were aplenty...gained about 5kg...which just shows you how easy you gain when you let go. But it was fine...as I now knew exactly how my body responded to tightening the belt again - so to speak. I knew how easy it was if you just put your mind to it. You and your mind are your biggest obstacles. If you can beat those F$%ckers into submission at will...you'll have no problems. Started Jan 2020 (like everybody) with some goals again....but mostly my wife that wanted to lose some weight and asked me to help. We, stopped drinking completely - it started as "dry Jan" but i felt so good i'm still going. Suffered the worst withdrawal of my life around week 2 haha. I mean i have been boozing casually since 16....so this was this first time my liver didn't know what the hell to do with all the free time on its hands since I was a teenager. I don't crave it anymore...although i do miss a glass of wine every now and then....but you can still lose weight even if you drink moderately. I lost my first 30kgs while still drinking...just count. And that excuse about being anti social is also not an excuse....there are plenty of non alcoholic things for sale these days in stores and restaurants, well in cape town at least. Beat your mind into submission... i'm 78kg this week. feeling stronger and leaner than ever. you can do it too, i promise. PS: some extra motivation - my wife's phone still has older pics of me on it...and as icing on the cake...the face recognition feature in the photo album recognises me as two different people haha.