QUICK Moral Dilemma PLS HELP

[swiss]

The past must stay in the past, if people keep going back to the past......are they realy ready to move to the future?

[The Saint]

Flippin hell it's a music video not a porn movie - I say find out how much she is going to be paid and make a business decision not a moral one. If it were a porn movie it would be a moral one.

 

The fact that he is still teary eyed and full of **** is not your problem. Take his money and move on - just stipulate no kissing and any other **** and everything will be fine - oh and money in the bank first.

[Andyr249]

Rad, I think you handled it very well then.

 

Tankman, that was a good laugh.

[Izak]

I'm sorry but IMHO if she doesn't care about him anymore she would not even have asked you!

[Slowbee]

quick and moral and dilemma dont belong in the same sentence.

 

sit down with her have a glass of wine and just be honest with your feelings. Nothing like communication to build trust.

[Meis]

Let her go...

 

1) Either you trust her or you don't. If you do, no problem, if you don't, you have bigger issues than the music video.

 

2) Use this to your advantage, at some point in the future you WILL screw something up at which point you can always refer back to that time she ... music video ... etc.

 

In saying that, I feel for you man. Not the easiest decision.

[Top Fuel]

Why the hell did he write a song about her? He is still obviously very much in love. She sees that. Women are not stupid. She wants to see what it is worth. Correct, if you try and stop her she is going to take that against you. You can't really win here. Good on you for talking to her. You need to keep that part up and let her know you are not happy about her actions. Good luck with the process. It sems you have more invested in this relationship than her right now. Let's hope that she sees the good in you and does the right thing. Tough times ahead!!!!!!

[Brighter-Lights]

HELL NO if it's for free... why does she owe him a favour? Consider it a business deal and CHARGE, else what's in it for her?

 

I've been in the ex mixup a few times in the past and believe me, even a very loyal girl could get mixed up mixing with her ex. Some guys are masters of the mind game act and girls are emotional and some girls are very easy to confuse, so it depends a lot on who/how/what your girl is, and how strong your relationship is.

 

Just my experience in the past. But.. the right girl will stick to you and you'll trust her, but someone who really is in love would also not mix with their ex's - unless the ending has been long in the past and it turned into a very long friendship after the relationship, then it's a bit different...

 

Personally, now that they can't pay immediately, I'll tell them to get lost... just sounds a little too much like they just want to use her...

Edited November 9, 2010 by Brighter-Lights

[Napalm]

Let her do it. Then just arrive at the shoot with a machette, point it to the ex-boyfriend and leave. It's not about not trusting her - it's about not trusting him. If he's writting songs about her, clearly he's not over her.

[Ysterman]

Well, I would ask the following questions to help us decide:

 

who's the musician?

will she be smooching him?

how much will she get paid?

 

But yes, screwed if you do & screwed if you dont ...

 

My vote will be yes ... let her go ...

[rad006]

1 I wont mention names but he is alone singer.

2 He is now Gay (Still doesn`t make me feel any better, as all that means is he swings both ways)

3 She made me laugh and said hell no kissing after what he might be kissing (Keyword is Rim lol)

4 I agree no money no show and she owes him nothing

5 Apparently the song is about their past love and how they have moved on etc, Im still waiting on lyrics

 

6 I think she is just so caught up in getting to be in a music video mode (As its not often you get to be in one unless its for Kurt Darren lol)

 

7 Im loving some of these comments lol, Thanks people... More updates to follow

[rattlesnake]

Dude, she shouldn't want to do it.... if she cares enough for u, she would know that spending time with an ex on a video is not sending the right message to u. if she does decide to do the video, maybe u should reconsider whether or not she is the one for you...

 

PS - That means that u should give her the freedom to choose whether to do it or not.

[Hairy]

Post a pic of your girlfriend to help with forming an opinion on the matter

[rad006]

Hairy I need permission for that lol. Ok let me find something...

[gongmech]

Lets put it this way...

 

She has the opportunity to be in a music video be watched by thousands of people, adored by loads.... every woman's secret wish.....and YOU are thinking of denying her that ????

 

If you feel secure in your relationship, then it'll probably strengthen it.

If you arent then you're going to lose her anyway.

 

Give her the freedom to make her own choice and she'll remember you for it. Just let her know that you support her.

 

Geez..i like my own advice!!

 

[Thor Buttox]

Dude, before you take the cash check those lyrics. If it's something along these lines, which would be appropriate, you are safe:

 

"Eeeekkk verlang na jou,

Ek wil kies 'n ou,

Met wie ek wil trou,

As ek blaas word my wange blou..."

 

If so, you are safe, and Loftus has a new anthem!!!