The only thing you are passionate about

[Sitting@89]

Rule #11

[Mamil]

I also have a few other obsessions all of which compete for fiscal resources and time .... photography, hifi equipment, classical music, reading ....

[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

I feel you...

 

Fortunately I have discovered that if I do the braaiing at a function then I don't have to listen at all to the alchohol fuelled **** that is talked about... and as a result I don't have to eat charcoal... which is what inevitably happens when the brandy drinkers handle the Braai... ok it's not brandy my wife's friends drink it's red wine.....

100%

 

I braai pretty much all the time - even at mates' places and people I don't know. For some reason I always seem to end up with a pair of tongs in my hand. And I dig it. 

 

I don't like crowds. Except, like recently, when the WHOLE crowd were MTBers. Common ground, common outlook. No bravado. Just plain old good conversation. 

[porqui]

Thin line between passion and being obsessed. (As per Thor)

 

Many obsessed don't see it.

 

Do you enjoy your cycling?

[Pikey]

We don't even go to braai's anymore. I NEED to be in bed before 21h00 otherwise I just can't train properly. If you want me to be at a braai it must be lunchtime and at my house. And I don't drink and neither does my wife so I don't supply dop. I will supply everything else but booze.

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ditto-although as hard as i try for 21h00 to 21h 30 don't always get it right. I don't have friends that don't ride so it's easy ... As for family they let me be. 1 drink gives me a headache so I don't bother.

 

Edit: so glad I am not the only one that's wants an hr's nap after a hard ride.

Luckily my wife never gives me grief ,like ever .

 

Hope she reads this ????????????????????

[Pikey]

100%

 

 

 

I don't like crowds. Except, like recently, when the WHOLE crowd were MTBers. Common ground, common outlook. No bravado. Just plain old good conversation.

 

My idea of a good afternoon / evening out. No bs just talk the crap out of everything bike related . Brilliant .

[Rigardt@Scott]

The only thing you are passionate about.

 

I often hear this phrase, when I go out for a training ride that was slightly too long for my misses liking, and come back knackered, desperately wanting a nap.

 

I hear it when I am told that I am bad company at her friends braai because I said Jens Voigt is my hero when the husbands club all discussed rugby players. The same friend who wishes her obese brandy drinking, rugby bef*k husband could look after himself better and get off the couch on weekends.

 

I hear It when planning holidays around cycling, her friend from the braai Was taken on an island holiday, they fought for a week non stop, or so I hear. I take holidays to do more long training rides, I come back calm with all my anger and frustration spent on the road, no island holiday, but also no angry lazy partner.

 

I hear it when I sit and watch the tour and comment on the super human abilities of a rider. I watch sports for 3 weeks of the year thats it! Brandy drinking husband watches rugby at the bar on weekends and often returns home to drunk to make it to bed.

 

I hear it when I carefully weigh my portions to make sure I am in racing shape. At a recent pool party her friends commented on what a fine specimen she had landed herself, (I have to admit this was before I was out of commission for 5 months) brandy drinking husband(s) were also in attendance, needless to say no comparison needed.

 

I hear it when I take the kids out on a ride, while other dads sit on the couch watching rugby and drinking half a case of beer screaming at the kids to go play somewhere else.

 

Here is what I have learned to say to those words, at least I have a passion, that is more than 90% of people can say. From the outside my passion might look like obsession, it might seem strange, however my passion truly makes me a better father, partner and human!

The struggle is real! People looking from the outside in (to all exercise related passions) just cannot inderstand it...

 

But let them drink their brandy and beer while getting fatter and more unhealthy year after year. When we are 80 they will wish that they hadspent more time being "obsessed" with eating healthy and excersing.

 

EDIT: At least I am in the fortunate position that my wife is just as passionate about running as I am about cycling, and she enjoys a morning out on the bike too! Trick is to surround yourself with people that share your passion!

[Pikey]

The struggle is real! People looking from the outside in (to all exercise related passions) just cannot inderstand it...

But let them drink their brandy and beer while getting fatter and more unhealthy year after year. When we are 80 they will wish that they hadspent more time being "obsessed" with eating healthy and excersing.

on the money 100%

[Thor Buttox]

ditto-although as hard as i try for 21h00 to 21h 30 don't always get it right. I don't have friends that don't ride so it's easy ... As for family they let me be. 1 drink gives me a headache so I don't bother.

 

Edit: so glad I am not the only one that's wants an hr's nap after a hard ride.

Luckily my wife never gives me grief ,like ever .

 

Hope she reads this ????????????????????

I am also of the 'one drink puts me to sleep' variety. My partner just loves that she has a driver... I'll take that as a compromise.

 

(While out on my 'I really don't think I should go out on a ride today' ride just now, I was reflecting on this thread to pass the time... If your partner doesn't respect your passions, or you don't respect that she might think it excessive, or are at unable to talk about it, there may be an issue there...)

[Pikey]

I am also of the 'one drink puts me to sleep' variety. My partner just loves that she has a driver... I'll take that as a compromise.

(While out on my 'I really don't think I should go out on a ride today' ride just now, I was reflecting on this thread to pass the time... If your partner doesn't respect your passions, or you don't respect that she might think it excessive, or are at unable to talk about it, there may be an issue there...)

Agreed. It's like Grease monkey said "The struggle is real! People looking from the outside in (to all exercise related passions) just cannot inderstand it...

 

Luckily my wife gyms 5 times week with the occasional ride . We understand the need to exercise.

[Odinson]

Hmmm. I think most of us have been admonished by the other half because of cycling and related activities. The key is balance.

 

It's always good to want to be fit healthy, but if you build your life around 'training' just so that you can end up 542nd in a Trailseeker race, then you need to reconsider your priorities.

[madmarc]

Simple solution - Start a fight with her, she tells me "Oh go ride your bike!!" - schweet, sorted. But i think she starting to cotton on to why I always start on a Fri morning 

[IceCreamMan]

Reading some of the comments here makes me realize just how damn lucky I am. A wife who gives me space to swim cycle an run an mates who tease me about my early bed times but always in jest. As for alcohol an seriously dopping with my maats that does not happen as often as it used to but my maats are understanding an proud of what I have achieved as is my lovely wife.

 

To the OP - if yr vrou is always on yr case as per yr post you need to make some decisions and-or lifestyle changes.

[Gen]

I have gotten over all the crap and pretence of other people.. and avoid socializing as much as possible.

 

As for getting flack for riding while on holiday .. only from our kids when we spend too much time on the bike and not on the beach[emoji23] [emoji23]

[Formallyknownas]

I have gotten over all the crap and pretence of other people.. and avoid socializing as much as possible.

 

As for getting flack for riding while on holiday .. only from our kids when we spend too much time on the bike and not on the beach[emoji23] [emoji23]

Doing it right✔

[V12man]

100%

 

I braai pretty much all the time - even at mates' places and people I don't know. For some reason I always seem to end up with a pair of tongs in my hand. And I dig it.

 

I don't like crowds. Except, like recently, when the WHOLE crowd were MTBers. Common ground, common outlook. No bravado. Just plain old good conversation.

I like having roadies around... that way we can talk about leg shaving..... really winds the women up.....