Please help a preemie

[Robbie Stewart]

Mom had a pic of Albertus on her profile. I will not share it here. He was so small and his tiny body so battered by the traumatic delivery. Tubes everywhere. It will upset anyone following the thread. It reminded me of why I was not allowed to post pics of Karmi for almost 3 weeks.

 

At least they are now blessed with one small, perfect, mostly healthy, silly, smiling, giggling miracle.

 

@ Slowbee: Thank you and you are right! I respect everyone's beliefs, so whether someone keeps Karmi in their prayers, thoughts, or sends good wishes, all are appreciated. I'm not going into details regarding just what she went through at birth (actually much worse than Albertus) or just how many times her heart stopped, but I am convinced that medicine alone could not have saved her. The many Hubbers still in her corner are helping for sure!

 

Indeed, little Karmi is a miracle baby, and God has plans and a future for her. My little Hannah baby is also a miracle, as I was declared medically sterile, and not even the best fertility professor in SA could help me, yet here she is, and not due to any medical intervention.

 

All the staff at Panorama Mediclinic were stunned to hear her story. Everyone thought she was born due to treatment. Not so. In 2010, God clearly and distinctly promised me a daughter (not just a baby, but a daughter!), and 8 years later, she is born and in perfect health. 

 

People will deny God, but no one can explain how I have a daughter when I should not be able to. Even my doctor was stumped. And before the snide comments are made, she looks like me...Tomorrow she will be 8 weeks old.

[PhilipV]

Robbie, that promise was made to you, and it doesn't matter if anyone believes you. Hold onto that promise when things get rough.

 

 

2bliss, thanks again for the updates.

This birthday hit close to home for me. Karmi is close to my daughters age, so I celebrate all the milestones with you.

We went through a miscarriage at the start of the year, and now we are expecting a baby boy again. So I've rim the whole gamut of emotions. I've learned to celebrate life, accept and live with loss, and to make peace with the fact that I'm not in control.

[Robbie Stewart]

Robbie, that promise was made to you, and it doesn't matter if anyone believes you. Hold onto that promise when things get rough.

 

 

2bliss, thanks again for the updates.

This birthday hit close to home for me. Karmi is close to my daughters age, so I celebrate all the milestones with you.

We went through a miscarriage at the start of the year, and now we are expecting a baby boy again. So I've rim the whole gamut of emotions. I've learned to celebrate life, accept and live with loss, and to make peace with the fact that I'm not in control.

 

Thanks Philip. I will keep you and your wife in my prayers, that you will have a beautiful baby boy who is brimming with health. I am not concerned with what people's opinions are, as I know the truth of the matter, and nothing will change that.

 

I pray that you too will experience God's faithfulness at such a level, especially with your boy.

 

[2bliss]

We went through a miscarriage at the start of the year, and now we are expecting a baby boy again. So I've rim the whole gamut of emotions. I've learned to celebrate life, accept and live with loss, and to make peace with the fact that I'm not in control.

I am so very sorry about your loss. It is heartbreaking when people want children and can't have them or lose them. Someone, like me, who hasn't been there cannot begin to understand just how hard it must be. Miscarriage perhaps gets the least empathy, not due to others being uncaring, but they cannot feel or see the loss of a future stolen. Expecting parents already think in terms of their little person yet to be born. To have your hopes and dreams torn away is unimaginable. Please give my condolences to your wife also. I'm sure the Hub will be thinking of you and hoping/praying that there isn't as much as a hiccup this time. All the best, 2B.

[PhilipV]

I am so very sorry about your loss. It is heartbreaking when people want children and can't have them or lose them. Someone, like me, who hasn't been there cannot begin to understand just how hard it must be. Miscarriage perhaps gets the least empathy, not due to others being uncaring, but they cannot feel or see the loss of a future stolen. Expecting parents already think in terms of their little person yet to be born. To have your hopes and dreams torn away is unimaginable. Please give my condolences to your wife also. I'm sure the Hub will be thinking of you and hoping/praying that there isn't as much as a hiccup this time. All the best, 2B.

Thank you 2B. Appreciate it.

Time heals most wounds. We are fine now. Xmas will be rough (when I found out Wifey is pregnant,) but falling pregnant so quickly again meant we had to knuckle down and get on.

Sadly, miscarriages are more common than thought, and we learned that when we decided not to hide it or make a stigma out of it. The result was that we were amazed by the support and love we got during the dark days. And a lot of people we know have gone through it (that we didn't know about,) and these people carried us through it.

 

We're excited to see our baby number 2 in heaven one day. Until then we're going to love the silly bubbles out of baby1 and baby3. Wifey is 26 weeks along, so we are excited and expectant for his coming, all the while learning how to do life with a busy toddler.

As an aside, Life with a toddler is not all Rainbows and Unicorns. In fact it is a full blown contact sport.

I got a shiner from a headbutt while trying to get babyface to sleep the other day. True Story.

[CDK]

When this thread started I was in hospital after a rather serious car accident. My wife walked in one day and there were tears streaming down my face as I could not fathom the heartbreak and anguish this family is going thru, and every little setback that brings back the memory of her brother and what could happen. She thought I was really depressed and even asked the Dr to give me something to deal with what lay ahead in terms of recovery etc. I showed her the tread and we both where sitting there crying and just holding our own bundle of joy. At home she would ask how Bunny is doing before how I am doing and that became the norm.

Last week, exactly 1 year and a week after my accident I was lying in bed, working out a training program for myself to get back into it, as I only really felt comfortable with the knee and ankle again.  Three hours later I was in the emergency room, I fell and shattered my knee cap again. On Saturday lying in hospital I was down beyond words, it dawned on me there is no more cycling for me and running might be a far off dream. And there it was, Karmis birthday. I started to read all 30 pages again, and thought to myself if this little tiny human has so much fight in her and with such a powerful God,  who am I to give up hope. I might have to realign my objectives but I will not give up hope.

I could not help the Preemie, but the Preemie helped me.

[Robbie Stewart]

When this thread started I was in hospital after a rather serious car accident. My wife walked in one day and there were tears streaming down my face as I could not fathom the heartbreak and anguish this family is going thru, and every little setback that brings back the memory of her brother and what could happen. She thought I was really depressed and even asked the Dr to give me something to deal with what lay ahead in terms of recovery etc. I showed her the tread and we both where sitting there crying and just holding our own bundle of joy. At home she would ask how Bunny is doing before how I am doing and that became the norm.

Last week, exactly 1 year and a week after my accident I was lying in bed, working out a training program for myself to get back into it, as I only really felt comfortable with the knee and ankle again.  Three hours later I was in the emergency room, I fell and shattered my knee cap again. On Saturday lying in hospital I was down beyond words, it dawned on me there is no more cycling for me and running might be a far off dream. And there it was, Karmis birthday. I started to read all 30 pages again, and thought to myself if this little tiny human has so much fight in her and with such a powerful God,  who am I to give up hope. I might have to realign my objectives but I will not give up hope.

I could not help the Preemie, but the Preemie helped me.

 

Thanks for sharing this. You will ride again, CDK. Don't lose hope. Don't allow the devil to steal your trust and hope that you will be able to surmount this obstacle. I pray you get through this, and that you will see God do a miracle in your circumstances.

[2bliss]

@CDK: Now you have caused my "allergies" to flare up. Injury or illness can be a life-changer in terms of abilities and mindset. I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I'm also very impressed with how you are handling what sounds like something very serious indeed. Perhaps you won't be a racing snake when you do get back on your bike, but maybe taking it slow will give more joy from being in the moment. Maybe I'm a hypocrite - everything won't be great all the time just because you try to have a positive mindset. It will also be so very hard at times. Take it from someone who spent a long time in a wheelchair after getting Guillain-Barré syndrome, it is okay to have bad days as long as you don't give up entirely and don't rush yourself. "Baby"-steps! And if it turns out one cannot do the same things as before, the next phase should be acceptance and finding new endeavours that are meaningful and enjoyable.

[Long Wheel Base]

6 weeks ago today my wife went into labour with our twins. She was at 35 weeks and although it was not as prem as bunny and her brother, we were still not out of danger. Luckily for us our twin boys came out healthy. The paed picked up a heart murmur on the first one out. We went to a pediatric cardiologist and he scanned him. He found a small hole and an unclosed flap. Yesterday we had the 6 week check up and the paed could no longer hear a murmur. Still need to go back at 6 months to the cardiologist for a scan but it seems we are going to be lucky and all has healed up naturally. Our toddler loves his brothers and despite things being insanely chaotic in my house I always think how we are actually very lucky that we have 3 healthy boys and so many people are not as fortunate.

[Robbie Stewart]

6 weeks ago today my wife went into labour with our twins. She was at 35 weeks and although it was not as prem as bunny and her brother, we were still not out of danger. Luckily for us our twin boys came out healthy. The paed picked up a heart murmur on the first one out. We went to a pediatric cardiologist and he scanned him. He found a small hole and an unclosed flap. Yesterday we had the 6 week check up and the paed could no longer hear a murmur. Still need to go back at 6 months to the cardiologist for a scan but it seems we are going to be lucky and all has healed up naturally. Our toddler loves his brothers and despite things being insanely chaotic in my house I always think how we are actually very lucky that we have 3 healthy boys and so many people are not as fortunate.

 

Congratulations L.W.B.

 

I pray your 3 boys will grow to be strong rooted men of substance, who will make an impact that will last for many generations to come, in the world they live in.

 

It is truly an immense blessing to have children, as my wife and I have now found out for the first time. Our girl is 8 weeks today, and she is just adds so much joy to our lives.

 

 

[Escapee..]

6 weeks ago today my wife went into labour with our twins. She was at 35 weeks and although it was not as prem as bunny and her brother, we were still not out of danger. Luckily for us our twin boys came out healthy. The paed picked up a heart murmur on the first one out. We went to a pediatric cardiologist and he scanned him. He found a small hole and an unclosed flap. Yesterday we had the 6 week check up and the paed could no longer hear a murmur. Still need to go back at 6 months to the cardiologist for a scan but it seems we are going to be lucky and all has healed up naturally. Our toddler loves his brothers and despite things being insanely chaotic in my house I always think how we are actually very lucky that we have 3 healthy boys and so many people are not as fortunate.

 

Congrats man!

 

Try to enjoy this crazy time.

 

We had a look yesterday at pictures of our first year with the twins. Its a blur and it goes by so quickly

[Long Wheel Base]

Congratulations L.W.B.

 

I pray your 3 boys will grow to be strong rooted men of substance, who will make an impact that will last for many generations to come, in the world they live in.

 

It is truly an immense blessing to have children, as my wife and I have now found out for the first time. Our girl is 8 weeks today, and she is just adds so much joy to our lives.

 

 

 

 

Congrats man!

 

Try to enjoy this crazy time.

 

We had a look yesterday at pictures of our first year with the twins. Its a blur and it goes by so quickly

Thanks guys.

[2bliss]

It is a nice warm day and Karmi enjoyed playing outside in the sunshine. Looks like she is a fearless little thing!

[2bliss]

Two firsts in one day!!! First tooth, but you're really going to have to look closely Plus, she is crawling, kind of. Looks like she hasn't quite figured out what to do with that right leg.

 

[Sepia]

Flip, looks like she will walk before she learns how to crawl properly. Loverly!!!!!

[Gen]

Two firsts in one day!!! First tooth, but you're really going to have to look closely Plus, she is crawling, kind of. Looks like she hasn't quite figured out what to do with that right leg.

 

https://vimeo.com/283961924

She is such a happy baby..