QUICK Moral Dilemma PLS HELP

[rad006]

I agree with no problem with keeping intouch but I dunno....

[Scooterza]

So what did you do?

[Moolz]

Class!

Let her do it!

[Tankman]

Let us think... romantic music videos ... chick in bikini or underwear.

Music about summer or sunshine ... chick in bikini.

Music about cars... chick in bikini.

Corny video ... chick in bikini.

 

If this ex has an agent, he clearly has enough dosh to hire models for the day, so I have come to the conclusion that your chick is HOT!!

[River Rat]

To me it is quite simple ask her how she thinks you would feel if she did it. That answer would give you more insight to the future of your relationship than any answer you could give.

[Genesis]

Hey Rad! This is a difficult one, but there is that old saying - "If you love someone then set them free, and if they dont come back then it was never meant to be".

 

This could be that defining moment you were asking about. Might answer a whole lot of questions and worries for you, and the truth will always set you free - no matter what the final outcome.

 

Its a win win situation.

Edited November 8, 2010 by Genesis

[Shebeen]

I just phoned noelene on 3 talk and she said:

Honesty is the best policy. Tell her how you feel and let her decide knowing that. And expect the same honesty from her side.

 

 

Me personally think you're between a bulls supporter and a hard place.

Either the vid is a hit and you get to be the guy boning the chick on mtv, or (more likely) you are constantly reminded about 'them' everytime its on the radio/tv/she plays it/talks about it.

[cat-i]

allow her.

it's her choice, not yours.

[The expat cyclist]

Hmmm...

 

What is in it for her? Is she doing it for him or for herself? If she is doing it for him, it could be a red flag. If it is for herelf and future prospects, no problem.

 

Remember, you are not her father. So trying to dominate the situasion to guard your insecurities will be a disaster. You can never tell a woman "NO". You will burn your fingers - trust me. You can only tell her how you feel about the situasion.

 

There is nothing more pathetic than a insecure man!

Don't ever be scared of losing a woman!!!

[Monark]

I agree with some of the comments above, I do not know you or your GF but you need to realise that she will need to make the decision as to whether she wants to be with him or you and whatever you choose to do will have no bearing on that... I say let her go, pony up and be a man about it.

 

[Thor Buttox]

Much wisdom all over here. Tell her how you feel, and if she goes to do it, go with her? If she's doing it for herself/cash/to help you have a nice honeymoon, she won't mind at all.

[dts29]

lots of trust in this forum, nice to see.

 

I say no. What reasons could the ex have for choosing her. Think about it man.. and if any of his songs have the words baby and lyfie as a rhyme formation then absolutely over my dead body HELL NO.

[rad006]

OK the hub Sucks cos I only saw these replies now..

 

So an Update...

 

I told her how I felt and told her the decision is up to her, as I know I cant stop her, just as like me moving overseas she could not stop that.

 

So she told them ok she will do it but there will be boundaries, also she liked the money comment and actually agreed to ask for money to make it seem like a business transaction.

 

They hesitated and then said ok but next year only, so either they are delaying the production or bullshitting her.

 

Eitherway I told her she needs to live with the decision she makes and how it turns out.

 

I will keep you guys updated promise, Will keep an eye on this thread more now

[Redline]

tankman +1

 

especially since the delayed crap just about now, shows they are not serious

[Squier]

Uhm... sorry, but I'm just curious... who is the ex/ex's band?

[pastapouch]

Do it , but CHARGE!