Advice on Divorce

[Honkdonk]

Its court appearance day today. So if all goes well she will walk out of court with a piece of paper that says we are no longer married.. It will plastered all over her FB page - she's like that.

 

So a celebration is in order. Today marks a new beginning in life

[Gen]

 

 

Its court appearance day today. So if all goes well she will walk out of court with a piece of paper that says we are no longer married.. It will plastered all over her FB page - she's like that.

 

So a celebration is in order. Today marks a new beginning in life

All the best...

 

 

 

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[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

Its court appearance day today. So if all goes well she will walk out of court with a piece of paper that says we are no longer married.. It will plastered all over her FB page - she's like that.

 

So a celebration is in order. Today marks a new beginning in life

Good luck, and congratulations!!!

 

Already been told by multiple people that I need to have a divorce party as soon as it's final. 

[Amberdrake]

Glad to see you guys coping well, my friend was a wreck after his seperation/divorce initially.

[GrahamS2]

We are part of the animal kingdom.. You are probably emitting a scent unbeknownst to you.... Can any ladies confirm this

That scent is called confidence. It's what a haircut and decent set of rags does for you

[Honkdonk]

I also turn 45 next week Tuesday so a good knees up could be in order this weekend..

 

On a side note, I had coffee with two ladies, separately of course, this last week. Both asked me and both going through nasty splits after years of marriage. One is totally devastated and cant see the wood for the trees at the moment. I was very wary of her initial approaches and made things clear from the start that there is no ways I'd entertain anything other than a coffee. 

The other one was more interesting and looking for advice, but I dare not go any further. She is also damaged goods currently and I would rather stay far away. I am very wary of the dynamics of a male/female relationship and how things can easily get misconstrued. So I would rather stay far away. 

Interesting though to hear their stories.

 

The lives people lead and just when you think everything is going hunky dory on the surface, underneath its a total mess.

[Patchelicious]

That scent is called confidence. It's what a haircut and decent set of rags does for you

As with MTBing, confidence is key.

[Neil Neil Neil]

I also turn 45 next week Tuesday so a good knees up could be in order this weekend..

 

On a side note, I had coffee with two ladies, separately of course, this last week. Both asked me and both going through nasty splits after years of marriage. One is totally devastated and cant see the wood for the trees at the moment. I was very wary of her initial approaches and made things clear from the start that there is no ways I'd entertain anything other than a coffee.

The other one was more interesting and looking for advice, but I dare not go any further. She is also damaged goods currently and I would rather stay far away. I am very wary of the dynamics of a male/female relationship and how things can easily get misconstrued. So I would rather stay far away.

Interesting though to hear their stories.

 

The lives people lead and just when you think everything is going hunky dory on the surface, underneath its a total mess.

Being in a relationship is not required to be intimate with another human, male or female. As long as all parties are fully aware of the situation and intention. It's 2018 not 19voetsak.

[Honkdonk]

Being in a relationship is not required to be intimate with another human, male or female. As long as all parties are fully aware of the situation and intention. It's 2018 not 19voetsak.

True story, but after a decade and then some of not being out in the field there is an adjustment period that takes some getting used too.

[New Landy new life]

Being in a relationship is not required to be intimate with another human, male or female. As long as all parties are fully aware of the situation and intention. It's 2018 not 19voetsak.

 

I agree.

 

Have also a female friend that I have been seeing since my split and we have been hanging out with no complications or intent to take things further but we at least spend time in each others company doing fun stuff now and again when we feel like company.

[HDW]

I also turn 45 next week Tuesday so a good knees up could be in order this weekend..

 

On a side note, I had coffee with two ladies, separately of course

 

That was your first mistake. 2 birds with one stone, go for it! Pics or it didn't happen, though.

Edited May 8, 2018 by HDW

[Mudsimus]

Just on another note: I see mention was made on the wearing of wedding rings...

Thanks to my father in law, I don't have to wear a wedding ring...

In laws have been married more than 40 years. My father in law is a GP so he stopped wearing his...

Me, I am not a GP...I just kept loosing mine. My response then was: I don't need to wear a ring to remind me that I am married. Look at your dad.

 

 

I have a gynecologist friend who also lost his ring while on the job.

[Thor Buttox]

I have a gynecologist friend who also lost his ring while on the job.

You mean at work? Or...?

[Stretch]

Being in a relationship is not required to be intimate with another human, male or female. As long as all parties are fully aware of the situation and intention. It's 2018 not 19voetsak.

Yup... The youth of today approach things a lot differently. We have gone through a period in Society where infidelity was a thing that just happened in the 50s and 60s and despite everyone knowing it was brushed under the carpet.. Not ideal... Then we had the 70s.. Where everyone went overboard.. Then through the modern era where polygamy became taboo. There is now a pull towards open polygamy with things like open relationships coming to the fore.. Especially with the younger generation. Sex is sex.. We still haven't worked out how to balance a relationship and sex.. But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous.

[Help.Me.]

.. But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous.

YOU SIR , please convey that message to my wife..............  

[Hacc]

Its court appearance day today. So if all goes well she will walk out of court with a piece of paper that says we are no longer married.. It will plastered all over her FB page - she's like that.

 

So a celebration is in order. Today marks a new beginning in life

Good luck with your new life. I know you want to forget this day for the rest of your life but try and see the positive in it and learn from it. Have a beer or two or more tonight. ("celebrate" it)

 

This is the time to reflect on what went wrong (from both sides). I don't mean that you must point fingers or play the blame game. That is over now. Decide what you want in a partner. I made a mental list of all my ex's issues and my own, and what I wanted for myself going forward. Don't settle for anything less and DON'T rush into anything. 

Spend time with yourself, get to know yourself again, as you tend to forget who you are as a human being and what is important to you. You have a second chance now to be happy, you owe it to yourself.

 

PS. Some of the posts in this thread made me laugh!! Thanks for that.