Advice on Divorce

[Hacc]

I had a motivational lunch time moment:

 

[Ispeed_V]

Some more motivation

[BigDL]

I have been following this thread since start, It encouraged me to work on my relationship when it started.

 

Unfortunately the results were not all that excellent.

 

Long story short things gone from bad to worse and I decided to end it, wife did not take it very well and I am staying with family.

 

Fortunately I get to see daughter regularly ATM and should continue that way.

 

My friends and family have been INSANE amount of support.

 

Saturday was worst day of my life in every way possible.

Sorry to hear this - hope it gets better going forward

[The Bull Shark]

I had a motivational lunch time moment:

 

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I can't like this post enough!

 

So, my home is currently needing some attention. But I spend most of my weekends on the bike with my son(s), and we have more bikes than some bike shops. So, my brothers sometimes ask me why I spend so much money on bikes and races with my kids, and I tell them that I only have my kids for a very short time before they grow up and leave home. I will have more than enough time and money once they left home to fix up the home and give it some attention.

[Patensie]

I have been following this thread since start, It encouraged me to work on my relationship when it started.

 

Unfortunately the results were not all that excellent.

 

Long story short things gone from bad to worse and I decided to end it, wife did not take it very well and I am staying with family.

 

Fortunately I get to see daughter regularly ATM and should continue that way.

 

My friends and family have been INSANE amount of support.

 

Saturday was worst day of my life in every way possible.

sterkte boet. I'm in the process as well. Some days are better than others. Some are just plain ****. I too experienced grace and empathy from people from whom I didn't even expect it. Take it day by day and get counseling for yourself and your kid. My therapist is much harder than me based on the advice she gives regarding my (ex)wife.

 

A number of hubbers reached out and gave me sound advice. I am forever thankful for that.

 

Something positive:

I'm taking my kids camping for the first time this weekend. Looking forward, but also anxious about how it will work out. They're 6 & 4.

[Kranswurm]

sterkte boet. I'm in the process as well. Some days are better than others. Some are just plain ****. I too experienced grace and empathy from people from whom I didn't even expect it. Take it day by day and get counseling for yourself and your kid. My therapist is much harder than me based on the advice she gives regarding my (ex)wife.

 

A number of hubbers reached out and gave me sound advice. I am forever thankful for that.

 

Something positive:

I'm taking my kids camping for the first time this weekend. Looking forward, but also anxious about how it will work out. They're 6 & 4.

Don't lose them....or you really will be in the dwang

[Hairy]

tie a rope to them and anchor this to the tent ..... problem solved!

sterkte boet. I'm in the process as well. Some days are better than others. Some are just plain ****. I too experienced grace and empathy from people from whom I didn't even expect it. Take it day by day and get counseling for yourself and your kid. My therapist is much harder than me based on the advice she gives regarding my (ex)wife.

A number of hubbers reached out and gave me sound advice. I am forever thankful for that.

Something positive:
I'm taking my kids camping for the first time this weekend. Looking forward, but also anxious about how it will work out. They're 6 & 4.

[Kranswurm]

tie a rope to them and anchor this to the tent ..... problem solved!

Slightly off topic but,

In Bots my son decided instead of a party for his 10th birthday he asked if we could do Central Kalahari and take his friends

We invited the kids 4 of them

We joked in the truck on the way that we better not let them out of our site and have them eaten by lion.

3rd night we had 6 lion walk into our firelight after dinner.I stuck to those kids like glue

[Amberdrake]

Slightly off topic but,

In Bots my son decided instead of a party for his 10th birthday he asked if we could do Central Kalahari and take his friends

We invited the kids 4 of them

We joked in the truck on the way that we better not let them out of our site and have them eaten by lion.

3rd night we had 6 lion walk into our firelight after dinner.I stuck to those kids like glue

Sorry that gave me a good chuckle at your expense

[Patensie]

Had an awesome weekend with the kids. There were a few emotional moments,but met some really good people. No one got eaten by lions, although a muskeljaatkat visited our site.

[Kranswurm]

Had an awesome weekend with the kids. There were a few emotional moments,but met some really good people. No one got eaten by lions, although a muskeljaatkat visited our site.

What a name for a Genet

[Patensie]

What a name for a Genet

wondered what the brits for that was!

[New Landy new life]

Similar to the iron-pig

[Amberdrake]

I had Bubbles (Daughter) this weekend (days, long story) we visited with my friend and his kids, she had a blast all smiles and happiness, she went home exhausted daily. 

The wife has also calmed down and things look like it might move in a more friendly if unhappy manner.

 

Don't get me wrong Saturday I had a extremely hard night after some hurtful things she said. But i eat the humble pie and just try to keep things going forward. Bubbles must come first

Edited January 28, 2019 by Amberdrake

[Paul Ruinaard]

I have been following this thread since start, It encouraged me to work on my relationship when it started. 

 

Unfortunately the results were not all that excellent.

 

Long story short things gone from bad to worse and I decided to end it, wife did not take it very well and I am staying with family.

 

Fortunately I get to see daughter regularly ATM and should continue that way.

 

My friends and family have been INSANE amount of support.

 

Saturday was worst day of my life in every way possible.

Never good to hear this.

 

Maybe you were already in a bad place and the thread helped you to make some choices that were going to happen anyway. Longer term you probably could be in a better place in a couple of months from now. Be prepared for some bumps and bruises and go back to the start of this string and re-read the posts that you identified with - likely there's some good advice in there somewhere that you can use.

 

You're Not the first - you won't be the last. It hurts like hell at the start but it will get better over time...

[New Landy new life]

Another question I have regarding maintenance for one's child.

 

If circumstances have changed considerably in regard to one's spouses salary used in the calculation of the % of who pays for what as well as the child now being 18 and earning a salary.

 

How do you go about re-negotiating the payment terms that are in the court papers if it was done through a mediator. 

 

P.S:  The payment term was set up to expire when he reaches 21

Edited January 29, 2019 by New Landy - new life