Advice on Divorce

[Slowbee]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

I cant like your post. It just feels wrong.

[Red Robin]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

Wishing you strength in the days ahead.

[BigDL]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

**** China, you have got me all teary here. Don’t know you but my heart is heavy for you. Stay strong, stay positive.

[Ispeed_V]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

Strength to you. 

[Steven Knoetze (sk27)]

I popped onto this thread just to try and get some advice vicariously as my fiance is still having issues with her ex.

I will admit to only reading from pages 1-16 and then to page 69 and to date.

One thing I must say is that, for a cycling forum where you get to know literally 100's of people you are likely to never meet, there are some of the best guys I have ever met.

Keep up the good work and strong's to anyone going through this.

I lost my wife to cancer 21 months ago, after only 5 years of happy marriage, and while it is not the same situation, the same loneliness and questions on life come to light. But there is always light at the end of the tunnel...............

Edited October 19, 2018 by Steven Knoetze (sk27)

[bj horn]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

Strongs .They grow up fast and before you know it they are 18 and make up their own minds as to what they want to do and see.Bet they will be back.Blood is thicker than water

[Steven Knoetze (sk27)]

One of my good friends lost his wife a year ago. You can still see the blank spots behind his eyes. Terrible disease. Good luck with moving forward. 

 

Don't want to derail this thread but yes it is a terrible disease.

We were lucky in that treatment bought us 18 months to make our peace with this curve-ball and say our goodbyes. Still does not make it any easier.

My loneliness led to me meeting an amazing lady, who was very recently divorced. After some mutual comforting we have an amazing little 6 month old bundle of joy so its all worked out pretty decently given the circumstances. (Suppose that's where the use protection and be careful comes into it, not that I would change anything now)

It is amazing how much your life can change in as little as a year or 2 and that is why it is important to keep your chin up or you will miss the opportunity standing right in front of you.

Damn that sounds all philosophical and clever so let me end it there before I ruin it.

Have a good weekend guys

Edited October 19, 2018 by Steven Knoetze (sk27)

[Stretch]

Don't want to derail this thread but yes it is a terrible disease.

We were lucky in that treatment bought us 18 months to make our peace with this curve-ball and say our goodbyes. Still does not make it any easier.

My loneliness led to me meeting an amazing lady, who was very recently divorced. After some mutual comforting we have an amazing little 6 month old bundle of joy so its all worked out pretty decently given the circumstances. (Suppose that's where the use protection and be careful comes into it, not that I would change anything now)

It is amazing how much your life can change in as little as a year or 2 and that is why it is important to keep your chin up or you will miss the opportunity standing right in front of you.

Damn that sounds all philosophical and clever so let me end it there before I ruin it.

Have a good weekend guys [emoji106]

And I don't want you derail your post... But "mutual comforting" made me smile.. Thanks for that

[Stretch]

It is done.

 

Off they go to new horizons, new beginnings and a new life.

We swam, we walked, we talked and we cried when it was time to say goodbye.. Alot

Dude.. You've the mental strength to get through this... Don't forget those nightly WhatsApp messages and calls

[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

And I don't want you derail your post... But "mutual comforting" made me smile.. Thanks for that

Ditto. Also made me think of a good friend of mine who "just wanted a shag" after his first was born. Another one popped out 9 months later. 

 

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[Long Wheel Base]

So I want your opinions, My wifes cousin is busy getting a divorce. Now it came as a shock to most of us including his soon to be ex wife. He had told his folks that he was not happy and that's it. So now we all really like his wife and in fact she came over the other day to see my wife and the kids(she is also still talking to/seeing my bil and his wife). So now my oldest lightie turns 3 soon and we having a party. Who do we invite? Inviting them all and having them all come will NOT GO DOWN WELL. We have not seen or spoken to the cousin and his parents since it has happened but plenty to the soon to be ex. ???????????????????

[Escapee..]

So I want your opinions, My wifes cousin is busy getting a divorce. Now it came as a shock to most of us including his soon to be ex wife. He had told his folks that he was not happy and that's it. So now we all really like his wife and in fact she came over the other day to see my wife and the kids(she is also still talking to/seeing my bil and his wife). So now my oldest lightie turns 3 soon and we having a party. Who do we invite? Inviting them all and having them all come will NOT GO DOWN WELL. We have not seen or spoken to the cousin and his parents since it has happened but plenty to the soon to be ex. ???????????????????

 

Invite both, let them figure the details out.

[Amberdrake]

Invite both but inform them before hand so they can sort it out.

[Steven Knoetze (sk27)]

So I want your opinions, My wifes cousin is busy getting a divorce. Now it came as a shock to most of us including his soon to be ex wife. He had told his folks that he was not happy and that's it. So now we all really like his wife and in fact she came over the other day to see my wife and the kids(she is also still talking to/seeing my bil and his wife). So now my oldest lightie turns 3 soon and we having a party. Who do we invite? Inviting them all and having them all come will NOT GO DOWN WELL. We have not seen or spoken to the cousin and his parents since it has happened but plenty to the soon to be ex. ???????????????????

 

That is a seriously tough situation.

This will be of no help to you but friends comes and go, even family. Many people I felt I was very close to were actually merely friends by association so once my wife passed away the communication just got less and less till they vanished.

If your family gets along with the wife I would invite her and leave the cousin to be for now. It all works itself out in the end but keep the party that positively contributes to your life and family around.