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Sold the kids bunk beds today.. Cleaned out their room, took my eldest daughters posters down off the wall above her bed, and packed away a lot of the stuff they want to take with them.

 

Its all a bit numbing.

 

If you have a bike, take some leave and do a road trip to clean out the headspace.

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Sold the kids bunk beds today.. Cleaned out their room, took my eldest daughters posters down off the wall above her bed, and packed away a lot of the stuff they want to take with them.

 

Its all a bit numbing.

That's a hard pill to swallow Honk [emoji52]

I haven't even thought yet about packing up all my kid's old toys, books, and photo albums. I just locked them all in one room for now until I am strong enough to face the fact that they will never live here again.

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Sold the kids bunk beds today.. Cleaned out their room, took my eldest daughters posters down off the wall above her bed, and packed away a lot of the stuff they want to take with them.

 

Its all a bit numbing.

breathe. One foot in front of another. You will be amazed how time and distance heal. Strongs mate. 

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T minus 16 days for when my kids leave for NZ..

I have had good days and boy, have I had bad ones...

She wants me to take them all to the airport on the 18th which I will do, and it will be very difficult, but I have to do it.

 

Once they are gone, then I will relook things - Do I need a 4 door car? No. Do I need a 2 bed apartment? No. Do I need to stay in Jhb or even SA? No.

But no rational or irrational decisions will be made until I am ready.

Good luck for tomorrow

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Thanks guys.

I am not taking them to the airport. We had a row over it. They are spending the evening at Kloofzicht so I will spend the morning with them over breakfast and then walking and swimming while the ex repacks all their bags, then I'll say my goodbyes around lunchtime and leave them to settle after I have gone.

Tomorrow will be one of the hardest days of my life

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Thanks guys.

I am not taking them to the airport. We had a row over it. They are spending the evening at Kloofzicht so I will spend the morning with them over breakfast and then walking and swimming while the ex repacks all their bags, then I'll say my goodbyes around lunchtime and leave them to settle after I have gone.

Tomorrow will be one of the hardest days of my life

Good luck mate.

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Thanks guys.

I am not taking them to the airport. We had a row over it. They are spending the evening at Kloofzicht so I will spend the morning with them over breakfast and then walking and swimming while the ex repacks all their bags, then I'll say my goodbyes around lunchtime and leave them to settle after I have gone.

Tomorrow will be one of the hardest days of my life

 

 

Good luck HD

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Tomorrow will be one of the hardest days of my life

Consider it a learning experience - make some plans with friends for the afternoon and evening - and the weekend - sitting around will not be good for you.

 

But the worst is anticipating it - reality never quite matches up.

 

Good luck!

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Thanks guys.

I am not taking them to the airport. We had a row over it. They are spending the evening at Kloofzicht so I will spend the morning with them over breakfast and then walking and swimming while the ex repacks all their bags, then I'll say my goodbyes around lunchtime and leave them to settle after I have gone.

Tomorrow will be one of the hardest days of my life

Wishing you strength for tomorrow mate - I feel almost like I know you as we have walked a similar path on this topic together along with all the help and well wishes

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