Advice on Divorce

[Escapee..]

We had a very similar situation last year.

 

Family member was also in the process of leaving his wife, we invited both and they both came to the party.

 

They handled it very well even though you could see it wasn't easy for either of them,

[PhilipV]

Invite who you want there. Not who feels they should be there. If it was me, I will  invite the soon to be ex-wife. She is mos welcome to remain a part of the friendship group,marital relations don't matter. You don't have to invite the cousin. If you haven't spoken to him since, then he isn't exactly an integral part of the family. 

And if he is snarky about it, he needs to learn that his decision has consequences, and you get to pick who you want to see at YOUR child's birthday. 

[CAAD4]

Do what you want. My wife teaches toddlers and used to get invited to a lot of (expensive, over hyped) parties and often asked me to join her. Damn I eventually stopped going, because by 2 a lot of parents were so suiped on pink drinks, it was scary.

 

It's about the kids people, not your afternoon to get blotto and not supervise them, resulting in Injuries from jungle gyms... Rant off.

 

Congrats on the first 3 years LWB. Don't let adult politics ruin your laaities special day.

[Rocket-Boy]

Do what you want. My wife teaches toddlers and used to get invited to a lot of (expensive, over hyped) parties and often asked me to join her. Damn I eventually stopped going, because by 2 a lot of parents were so suiped on pink drinks, it was scary.

 

It's about the kids people, not your afternoon to get blotto and not supervise them, resulting in Injuries from jungle gyms... Rant off.

 

Congrats on the first 3 years LWB. Don't let adult politics ruin your laaities special day.

It stopped being about the kids at those parties a while ago. Now its a chance to impress the other mommies. My wife owns a cake shop and says that some of the 1st and 2nd birthday cakes are getting more expensive than wedding cakes! 

Seriously does a 1 or 2 year old even notice the cake? I think not, but the other mommies sure do!

[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

It stopped being about the kids at those parties a while ago. Now its a chance to impress the other mommies. My wife owns a cake shop and says that some of the 1st and 2nd birthday cakes are getting more expensive than wedding cakes! 

Seriously does a 1 or 2 year old even notice the cake? I think not, but the other mommies sure do!

Yup. 

 

Google "Cake Smash". Looks fantastic in pictures, but all it is is a popularity contest. OMG look how I spoil my child it's sooooooo *cute*!

 

Essentially it's a contest to see who can ruin the most expensive cake. Drove me mental when I was still married. 

[Long Wheel Base]

Do what you want. My wife teaches toddlers and used to get invited to a lot of (expensive, over hyped) parties and often asked me to join her. Damn I eventually stopped going, because by 2 a lot of parents were so suiped on pink drinks, it was scary.

 

It's about the kids people, not your afternoon to get blotto and not supervise them, resulting in Injuries from jungle gyms... Rant off.

 

Congrats on the first 3 years LWB. Don't let adult politics ruin your laaities special day.

Thanks D. Yeah the day is about my champ so that's why I don't want any issues.

[Gen]

Thanks D. Yeah the day is about my champ so that's why I don't want any issues.

There we go invite who he wants play with on the day..

 

Also good luck..3 year olds in bulk..eina

[The Bull Shark]

Yup. 

 

Google "Cake Smash". Looks fantastic in pictures, but all it is is a popularity contest. OMG look how I spoil my child it's sooooooo *cute*!

 

Essentially it's a contest to see who can ruin the most expensive cake. Drove me mental when I was still married. 

 

Exactly why we don't do that stuff anymore. We normally go for a 2 hour session for the kids at Rush, without the accompanying kids party. We buy them some donuts or whatever they want, and let them jump themselves tired. I am sure the parents appreciate the quiet and tired kids that evening.

[Long Wheel Base]

There we go invite who he wants play with on the day..

 

Also good luck..3 year olds in bulk..eina

Wish me luck in 2.5 years time when my twins are 3............ Flip I already look at how bos my 3 y/o plays and just think it's going to be seriously wild in my house soon. Right now my oldest chases the 2 dogs around the house on his plastic bike, I warned the dogs that soon it will be 3 chasing them.

[Long Wheel Base]

It stopped being about the kids at those parties a while ago. Now its a chance to impress the other mommies. My wife owns a cake shop and says that some of the 1st and 2nd birthday cakes are getting more expensive than wedding cakes! 

Seriously does a 1 or 2 year old even notice the cake? I think not, but the other mommies sure do!

Flip this is news to me. We busy looking on pinterest for ideas on cakes. My lightie loves blaze and the monster machines and we going to make it ourselves. Even going to do a trial run soon. I don't give a stuff what the other mommies think.

[Long Wheel Base]

Sorry for derailing this thread. My apologies.

[Rocket-Boy]

Yup. 

 

Google "Cake Smash". Looks fantastic in pictures, but all it is is a popularity contest. OMG look how I spoil my child it's sooooooo *cute*!

 

Essentially it's a contest to see who can ruin the most expensive cake. Drove me mental when I was still married. 

Its become a thing to order two cakes now, one for everyone to eat and another literally for the kid to smash. When my wife was trying to explain it my brain kept rejecting the idea that humanity could have sunk to such a level

[Patensie]

Its become a thing to order two cakes now, one for everyone to eat and another literally for the kid to smash. When my wife was trying to explain it my brain kept rejecting the idea that humanity could have sunk to such a level

what a waste...i make a pinata and the kids can moer that with my knopkierie. It's well reinforced so it keeps 'em busy for a while.

[Thor Buttox]

Its become a thing to order two cakes now, one for everyone to eat and another literally for the kid to smash. When my wife was trying to explain it my brain kept rejecting the idea that humanity could have sunk to such a level

'The Purge 3: Koekiemoer' just keeps making more and more sense.

[CAAD4]

Yup.

 

Google "Cake Smash". Looks fantastic in pictures, but all it is is a popularity contest. OMG look how I spoil my child it's sooooooo *cute*!

 

Essentially it's a contest to see who can ruin the most expensive cake. Drove me mental when I was still married.

I haven't watched that, but in order to try and relieve my irritation, I used to shout "put your finger in the cake") after we all sang happy birthday. It was priceless to see the hesitation, then utter joy, as the laaities would stab their finger into the designer cake and be a kid.

 

Apologies for the derailment. I feel better now.

As you were

[Gen]

Its become a thing to order two cakes now, one for everyone to eat and another literally for the kid to smash. When my wife was trying to explain it my brain kept rejecting the idea that humanity could have sunk to such a level

It is like trash the dress at weddings..stupid and a waste of money.