Advice on Divorce

[Paul Ruinaard]

I know most of the comments on here have come from male hubbers.

 

Any lady hubbers gone through a divorce ?

Surprisingly a huge amount of great advice  for me came from male friends who were very caring and very insightful - i posted about pizza night and some of the characters there. It was started by guys who were getting divorced and on a Monday night had nothing to do and were sad so went for a pizza. That was  a great place to go because everyone listened and had been where you were at some time.

 

Guys have great advice many times...

[Honkdonk]

Well done Landy. Now you can pick up and get on with things. That's a whole load better than my two years.

I went to a mates house on Saturday and got totally smashed. Long time no house party and they are such easy going folk with a good crowd of reprobate friends. I was one of the last to leave and then promptly lost/left my phone in the Uber. Bugger.

But I finally got it out of my system as I was a bit numb last week and in hermit mode.

[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

Well done Landy. Now you can pick up and get on with things. That's a whole load better than my two years.

I went to a mates house on Saturday and got totally smashed. Long time no house party and they are such easy going folk with a good crowd of reprobate friends. I was one of the last to leave and then promptly lost/left my phone in the Uber. Bugger.

But I finally got it out of my system as I was a bit numb last week and in hermit mode.

Lol. I did the same, except the friend's neighbour found my wallet in the road the next morning. Must have fallen out when I got into the Uber.

 

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[Uni]

 

But I finally got it out of my system as I was a bit numb last week and in hermit mode.

good luck to all you you and Happy Birthday @Honkdonk

[Honkdonk]

Hahah.

Thanks !

[New Landy new life]

Hermit mode sounds like a great idea - may just try that this week.

[Patchelicious]

remind me of a truism: experience, that thing you get just after you needed it.

Wisdoms a gift,but you trade it for youth.

[Patchelicious]

So I used the mediator that you are using as you provided to me at the time, and I overtook you to the finish line.

 

How weird is that ?

Gooo Landy!! Another step in the right direction!

[BigDL]

 

 

Have been too busy to really get stuck into the hub recently, so catching up this week. A lot of movement since the beginning of this thread. Glad you guys are moving forward. As I said in an earlier post, lots of thought provoking comments on here.

 

Just reflecting on the monogamy/polygamy/swinging/oxen naaing part of the thread.. this truly is a mixed up world we live in. Not sure who is right or wrong, but personally I would have zero interest in a relationship outside of the marriage. Couldn’t live with the guilt.

[BigDL]

PS - well done guys on finalising/ almost finalising

[Mojoman]

My ex got married this weekend...I went to the local pub to meet a friend who visits here once in a while and have a drink (coke in my case!) and would you believe it that some of her mates were there and they took a certain delight in showing me her wedding pics....but you know you are over it when you can look at the pics and not really feel anything....(actually I lie.... there was a tiny bit of regret....like not buying more bikes when I had the chance!)

[eddy]

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My ex got married this weekend...I went to the local pub to meet a friend who visits here once in a while and have a drink (coke in my case!) and would you believe it that some of her mates were there and they took a certain delight in showing me her wedding pics....but you know you are over it when you can look at the pics and not really feel anything....(actually I lie.... there was a tiny bit of regret....like not buying more bikes when I had the chance!)

When my ex got married again, the only thing I felt was sorry for the poor guy....

[Kranswurm]

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When my ex got married again, the only thing I felt was sorry for the poor guy....

Ha ha...that's my line

[Captain Fastbastard Mayhem]

Ha ha...that's my line

Hope you don't mind if I use it, too!

 

[Thor Buttox]

Hope you don't mind if I use it, too!

 

Karma is a bitchy chameleon, guys. Isn't the correct response to wave your ring finger in the air, and wave it like you just don't care?

[The expat cyclist]

Sorry guys, taking a left turn here, but my wife and recently celebrated 8 years of marriage. (Been together for 11.)

The other day we were discussing marriage advice - you know the kind you get at your wedding from her/your folks?

 

The one we ignored very early - don't go to bed angry. Like BS. Some times I got in bed and promptly nearly fell out again because I was trying to lie as far from her as possible.

And then somewhere in the night my leg with touch hers and I'd wake up and be like all pithed off that my own body parts betrayed me.

 

Come the next morning, I can't remember why I was upset. Now I'm not sure if I should appologise? Then I'd realise the fight was stupid, we'd talk about it, and move on.

 

Anyway, somehow I think that sometimes we try so hard to stay together that it drives us apart.

Good luck to all getting through this crap.