Disylizzy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 I don't think there's a right answer for this... me, after 6 months-ish. Colleague of mine, 2 weeks. Depends entirely on you. 'Sup Myles! I was just wondering because I want to meet people again, but the thought of dating is giving me the heebie jeebies
Steven Knoetze (sk27) Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 I don't think there's a right answer for this... me, after 6 months-ish. Colleague of mine, 2 weeks. Depends entirely on you. Good advice, I also think it depends on the situation and the individual.If it is a bitter or sudden break-up it may need more time otherwise you just carry the baggage into the next relationship.It will also depend on whether you want to date just to get out, or date to look for a serious relationship. 6 months seems like a fair amount of time to deal with the previous relationships baggage and move on. Disylizzy and Captain Fastbastard Mayhem 2
Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 'Sup Myles! I was just wondering because I want to meet people again, but the thought of dating is giving me the heebie jeebiesLol. Indeed,I know exactly what you mean. At the same time, the only way you can tell if it's the right time is by jumping in, and hoping you don't snag a crazy. ???? Amberdrake, Spoke101, GrahamS2 and 1 other 4
Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Good advice, I also think it depends on the situation and the individual.If it is a bitter or sudden break-up it may need more time otherwise you just carry the baggage into the next relationship.It will also depend on whether you want to date just to get out, or date to look for a serious relationship. 6 months seems like a fair amount of time to deal with the previous relationships baggage and move on.Agreed to an extent, but it also depends on how deeply your levels of trust have been affected. Mine coincided with my dad's death, which fkd things up properly. ???? Shebeen, Spoke101, gemmerbal and 1 other 4
Hairy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 'Sup Myles! I was just wondering because I want to meet people again, but the thought of dating is giving me the heebie jeebies Not trying to be funny here ... would just riding with a couple of guys not give you an opportunity to at least chat to guys informally and help you to get over the heebie jeebies ... you would then also have the opportunity of refining your "crazy radar" for when you are feeling more open to relationships? eddy, Andrew Steer and Disylizzy 3
Hairy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 My above would mean to CYCLE with a couple of guys / group Captain Fastbastard Mayhem, Amberdrake, Skubarra and 5 others 8
Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 (edited) My above would mean to CYCLE with a couple of guys / groupWhy not both????? Edited March 2, 2020 by Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Uni 1
Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Not trying to be funny here ... would just riding with a couple of guys not give you an opportunity to at least chat to guys informally and help you to get over the heebie jeebies ... you would then also have the opportunity of refining your "crazy radar" for when you are feeling more open to relationships?Jeeeez, that crazy radar. Wish somebody had told me how much it would be needed. ???? Hairy and eddy 2
Disylizzy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Not trying to be funny here ... would just riding with a couple of guys not give you an opportunity to at least chat to guys informally and help you to get over the heebie jeebies ... you would then also have the opportunity of refining your "crazy radar" for when you are feeling more open to relationships?That makes sense, I think part of the heebie jeebies comes in with the fact of how to meet guys... And the only thing that comes easily to mind is online dating, and the idea of sifting through garbage/lies/dick pics to get to some gem is very off-putting Hairy 1
Captain Fastbastard Mayhem Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 That makes sense, I think part of the heebie jeebies comes in with the fact of how to meet guys... And the only thing that comes easily to mind is online dating, and the idea of sifting through garbage/lies/dick pics to get to some gem is very off-puttingIf you decide to wade into the cesspool that is Tinder, good luck! I've heard of a few success stories, but joh.
Disylizzy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Jeeeez, that crazy radar. Wish somebody had told me how much it would be needed. At least it makes for a good story Captain Fastbastard Mayhem 1
Hairy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 That makes sense, I think part of the heebie jeebies comes in with the fact of how to meet guys... And the only thing that comes easily to mind is online dating, and the idea of sifting through garbage/lies/dick pics to get to some gem is very off-puttingOur weekend ride group is usually three ladies and myself, but they are great to ride with .... and can flipping rock a DH decent. Disylizzy 1
Disylizzy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Our weekend ride group is usually three ladies and myself, but they are great to ride with .... and can flipping rock a DH decent. Maybe I need to hit you up then for when you guys go riding again, after world fun ride champs of course. My mountain biking skills have taken a nose dive with all the road cycling I've been doing lately Captain Fastbastard Mayhem, EddieV and Hairy 3
Hairy Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Maybe I need to hit you up then for when you guys go riding again, after world fun ride champs of course. My mountain biking skills have taken a nose dive with all the road cycling I've been doing latelyLooking at doing an "intermediate" MTB ride at Conters in a week or two from now for those of our commuters who are curious of playing in the dirt ... you are welcome to join this too if you want to break that MTB back in again. Disylizzy 1
Stretch Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 If you decide to wade into the cesspool that is Tinder, good luck! I've heard of a few success stories, but joh.That bad hey Last time I dated there was barely internet [emoji38] Hairy, SwissVan and Disylizzy 3
Honkdonk Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 For me was about 6 months but that was actually too soon. Serious relationship was after a year I avoided dating like the plague, but then I never really was like that. I would just let things fall into place should I meet someone. I had a short fling that ended over a year ago and I have been involved with an amazing woman since July or so last year. She is well younger than me, but is everything my ex was not! It took me near on 3 years before another woman's lips touched mine.Dont rush it. Wounds are deep and the mind takes time to process the thought of being with and sharing another's space. Uni, Captain Fastbastard Mayhem, Disylizzy and 2 others 5
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