Thor Buttox Posted May 8, 2018 Share I have a gynecologist friend who also lost his ring while on the job.You mean at work? Or...? Captain Fastbastard Mayhem and HDW 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stretch Posted May 8, 2018 Share Being in a relationship is not required to be intimate with another human, male or female. As long as all parties are fully aware of the situation and intention. It's 2018 not 19voetsak.Yup... The youth of today approach things a lot differently. We have gone through a period in Society where infidelity was a thing that just happened in the 50s and 60s and despite everyone knowing it was brushed under the carpet.. Not ideal... Then we had the 70s.. Where everyone went overboard.. Then through the modern era where polygamy became taboo. There is now a pull towards open polygamy with things like open relationships coming to the fore.. Especially with the younger generation. Sex is sex.. We still haven't worked out how to balance a relationship and sex.. But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous. Neil Neil Neil, Uni, Gen and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Help.Me. Posted May 8, 2018 Share .. But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous.YOU SIR , please convey that message to my wife.............. Â IceCreamMan, HDW, BigDL and 3 others 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hacc Posted May 8, 2018 Share Its court appearance day today. So if all goes well she will walk out of court with a piece of paper that says we are no longer married.. It will plastered all over her FB page - she's like that. So a celebration is in order. Today marks a new beginning in lifeGood luck with your new life. I know you want to forget this day for the rest of your life but try and see the positive in it and learn from it. Have a beer or two or more tonight. ("celebrate" it) This is the time to reflect on what went wrong (from both sides). I don't mean that you must point fingers or play the blame game. That is over now. Decide what you want in a partner. I made a mental list of all my ex's issues and my own, and what I wanted for myself going forward. Don't settle for anything less and DON'T rush into anything. Spend time with yourself, get to know yourself again, as you tend to forget who you are as a human being and what is important to you. You have a second chance now to be happy, you owe it to yourself. PS. Some of the posts in this thread made me laugh!! Thanks for that. Honkdonk, Mopkop, Captain Fastbastard Mayhem and 3 others 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uni Posted May 8, 2018 Share But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous.I totally agree with this and it's something I've decided as I got older. We expect one person to fulfill all our needs and that's why they fail.If I was to staft a new relationship now - polyamory would be a serious consideration, I heard it referred to as ethical cheating. HDW, Stretch and Neil Neil Neil 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honkdonk Posted May 8, 2018 Share Polyamory - now there's a thing and a odd one at that, a conundrum really. As in one respect I could totally see myself getting cozy by the fireplace and having deep and meaningful conversations followed by long walks somewhere concluded with a meal, wine and explosive sex with the woman of my dreams.. I guess that's the romantic in me coming out. However at the same time a life of revolving short term (or long term for that matter) partners also seems to be attractive which is the the male primitive alternative.Over the years as we, as a human race, have progressed (ya, whatever) and it's become accepted, or forced, that we settle down and stick with one partner, but I bet you there are a lot of us out there who are very from the notion of settle down and be in a monogamous relationship and the chances are that is why we are in the situation we are in that has resulted in this thread.. Uni 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondeonabike Posted May 8, 2018 Share Yup... The youth of today approach things a lot differently. We have gone through a period in Society where infidelity was a thing that just happened in the 50s and 60s and despite everyone knowing it was brushed under the carpet.. Not ideal... Then we had the 70s.. Where everyone went overboard.. Then through the modern era where polygamy became taboo. There is now a pull towards open polygamy with things like open relationships coming to the fore.. Especially with the younger generation. Sex is sex.. We still haven't worked out how to balance a relationship and sex.. But let's face it... With the few exceptions the concept of having one sexual partner for 20 30 40 50+ years of your life is actually ridiculous.Very true. To vow to love someone for the rest of your life is insane. I think marriage licences should be like drivers licences that naturally expire after a certain period of time. Couples can choose to renew if they want to. Going forward..the best I could ever offer someone will be my today...tomorrow who knows? I want to always be free to have that choice. Uni, Stretch, Gen and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceCreamMan Posted May 8, 2018 Share We are all damaged goods. Â Secondly, I am quite happy in my marriage an have no desire to enter into any other poly kinda arrangement. Mebbe old school that way but damn it one woman is already one too many. How the hell can one ou keep multiple women happy. intern, Fruity, Help.Me. and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceCreamMan Posted May 8, 2018 Share Very true. To vow to love someone for the rest of your life is insane. I think marriage licences should be like drivers licences that naturally expire after a certain period of time. Couples can choose to renew if they want to. Going forward..the best I could ever offer someone will be my today...tomorrow who knows? I want to always be free to have that choice.Couples have that option anyway. Â Divorce the only answerSmoking causes cancer Blokman 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondeonabike Posted May 8, 2018 Share Couples have that option anyway. Divorce the only answerSmoking causes cancerI see your point. My point is that marriage has two facets...the legal contact and the vow two people make to each other and sometimes before their god as well. Its the vowing part I cant do. I dont want to make lifelong vows I cannot be certain I can keep. Uni 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eddy Posted May 8, 2018 Share Already been told by multiple people that I need to have a divorce party as soon as it's final. My invite has gotten lost in the mail.... the nerd 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uni Posted May 8, 2018 Share How the hell can one ou keep multiple women happy.Plot twist - what if it's not your job to keep someone happy? splat, Stretch, eddy and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceCreamMan Posted May 8, 2018 Share I see your point. My point is that marriage has two facets...the legal contact and the vow two people make to each other and sometimes before their god as well. Its the vowing part I cant do. I dont want to make lifelong vows I cannot be certain I can keep.In some countries it’s advisable t have a legally binding contract between the parties. Marriage is after all a contract when one gets down to brass tacks. In ZA one can have a multitude of arrangements, it’s in the interest of Parties to have some sort of arrangement else ppl could be taken advantage of.  We all different, we all make decisions and have to live with them. Marriage ain’t easy, and life throws curveballs and hardship. When times get a lil tough it would be too easy to swipe left and move on. I understand yr point completely, I believed I would never marry again and lo and behold my lovely wife had these wily tricks and here I am happily married, ( I said wily hey hehe) I sincerely hope our marriage holds til death us do part, and as such I am prepared to put in the hard yards to ensure it does. The Ghost and blondeonabike 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IceCreamMan Posted May 8, 2018 Share Plot twist - what if it's not your job to keep someone happy?That was tongue in cheek, however I get yr point. Â The dynamics of a relationship are very complex, and certainly being a part of yr partners happiness is in the job description. I hav seen enough relationships where the partners were making each other unhappy so the converse must hold too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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eddy Posted May 8, 2018 Share Plot twist - what if it's not your job to keep someone happy?After 1o years on the gun, FINALLY a sensible post.... Edited May 8, 2018 by eddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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